Dayle's Blog


March 2016

22 March – Honour

I was thinking today of the people who have had an input or influenced me in some way. Some if I’m honest have had a positive impact and some negative. However I believe God when He promises that He will work all things out for good, for those who love Him and are called according to his purpose.

“And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28)

So  I choose to honour those whom God is, and has used to teach and influence my life for His purposes and plans.

The definition of honour is to hold in high respect, and great esteem. I think its easier to honour people when you look with the perspective of what has been revealed or worked through in our life because of them. We choose to hold those individuals with respect and esteem. They are people God has chosen to use to shape our destiny, or who have had a significant impact on the world for good.

Having a heart attitude to honor all people for who they are and the gift they are to the world is such a great attitude to have. We are looking for the good and the positives in people, and choosing to honour them in that.
It’s easy to criticize and judge, but how much better to give honour.

The bible says to,”Show proper respect (honour) to everyone.. .. Have respect for God.” (1 Peter 2:17)

Heaven has a culture of honour. It’s a place of esteem, respect and value. God is such a loving Father, and He says He crowns mankind with glory and honour.  Imagine that, He crowns us with esteem and respect. If He grants us this privilege and respect, how much more should we bestow that same esteem and respect on others.

“What is man that You take thought of him, And the son of man that You care for him? Yet You have made him a little lower than God, And You crown him with glory and majesty! You make him to rule over the works of Your hands; You have put all things under his feet,…” (Psalm 8:5)

Follow God’s example and choose to really honour those around you with the esteem and respect that God deems every person worthy of.

Its a powerful gift when people are shown respect, often helping to release ability and potential in people’s lives.

Make a choice to honour those you meet today.

Prayer: Lord I thank you that you are such a loving Father, who has bestowed on me such grace and favour. Help me to love and esteem others because they are worthy of honour in your sight. Help me to see as you see. In Jesus Name amen.

21 March – Things that make you Chuckle!

Today I had to have a chuckle. One of our daughters has some pretty entertaining and varied jobs.  Today she was the Easter Bunny, with the whole white bunny suit, fluffy tail, glasses and Easter eggs. She has no trouble wandering through the shops spreading Easter joy and chocolate. A few days ago you would have found her dancing happily with crowds of children and brave adults as she “worked” entertaining at a festival in the city.

She makes me chuckle, as her energy and love of life is entertaining and exhausting all at the same time. I think she has decided the world needs a “Joy Revival”, and you know I think she may be right.

I tell my kids it takes more muscles and effort to frown than to smile. Unfortunately sometimes in life we can get caught up in a cycle of toxic thoughts and emotions, becoming to serious and weighed down by the weights and concerns of life to have fun. But having fun is infectious and will promote health and even make you smarter.
Dr Carolyn Leaf a prominent neuroscientist says “our gift, which is our unique way of thinking, is neurologically developed when we have fun”. Its detrimental to our well-being to be too serious because it will breakdown our gifts and uniqueness of thinking.
Proverbs 17:22 says “laughter is the best medicine”. It releases an instant flood of feel-good chemicals that boosts the immune system, increasing immunity and disease fighting cells. Almost instantly it reduces levels of stress hormones. It can even make growth hormones skyrocket by 85%. Why did nobody tell me that earlier?

Joy and laughter also get both sides of the brain working together, which is a key to releasing potential.  Laughter also dissolves toxic emotions, and protects your heart as your body releases chemicals that improve the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, protecting against heart disease.

God designed us, and He meant what He said when He said the joy of the Lord is our strength, and that a merry heart is like medicine. (Nehemiah 8:10; Proverbs 17:22)

Dr Leaf states that “fun through play and laughter is the cheapest, easiest, and most effective way to control toxic thoughts and emotions, and their toxic stress reactions. It rejuvenates the mind, body and spirit and gets positive emotions flowing”.

God encourages us throughout His word to give him our burdens, worries and concerns. Why? because they are fun inhibitors. He wants us to have joy in abundance. He actually loves to pour out ecstatic joy. Often we just need to make the choice to:

  • Get out of the way and embrace everything God has for you. Maybe that means getting out of your comfort zone and having fun by doing something new. Surprise yourself.
  • Recognise and be grateful for all the good things in your life. Focus on those positives, write them down.
  • Embrace every opportunity for life giving joy, and plan and look for joy triggers in your day.
  • Don’t be afraid to be a little silly; fun and joyfulness can be had almost anywhere, whether at a celebration or in the middle of a workday.
  • Watch your words. Are you complaining and nagging or are you finding good things to talk about? What you focus and talk about is what you’ll get in your day.
  • Spend time with Jesus. He is the ultimate joy giver who gives overflowing, abundant joyful life (John 10:10) Tell him you want to know Him more, and to talk with Him. He’ll answer. He says “I love those who love me; And those who diligently seek me will find me”. (Proverbs 8:17)

Be blessed with joy today. In Jesus Name Amen.

20 March -The gift of encouragement

Everyone loves to be encouraged. It lifts us up, inspires, and motivates us to keep moving forward.

The bible talks a lot about encouraging one another, and that God wants to encourage us. “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)


To be a great encourager we need to believe the best of people even when they haven’t proven themselves yet.

The world is full of naysayers who are ready to tear down and pour out negatives, and unfortunately many people will listen. They have more faith in their ability to fail than to succeed, and have severe trouble in believing in themselves. They see difficulties at every turn and expect defeat and failure.

Yet God says, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13), and that is what He wants us to believe and be speaking to others. “A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success” yet what do most people hear when they fail? Unfortunately they are usually words that are of no benefit or help.

I have been blessed with my husband Philip who is a fantastic encourager. No matter how many times he gets kicked or has faced difficulties he just keeps on  getting back up.

He has learnt the art of encouraging himself in the Lord. He believes what God says about him more than what the world and all the critics do. He has learnt that in the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity to grow and learn. Because of this absolute belief that God is for him and not against him he is able to extend that faith and belief towards others.

He looks for the good and potential in people and blesses them with his enthusiasm, wisdom and trust, that what God has started in a person He will be faithful to complete.

For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus” (Philippians 1:6)

If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?(Romans 8:31).

I have over the years learnt to be more like Philip. Instead of always seeing the impossibilities and problems I now look for solutions and the positives more than I used to. I have learnt through studying God’s word that God is really positive and an encourager too, and since we are asked to be imitators of God I need to be more like Him.(Ephesians 5:1-2)

The world needs more people like Philip, who give into people’s lives so that they can be all they were created to be. Most people don’t have someone who has faith in them.

Why not be that special person to someone in your world today,and bless them with the gift of encouragement?

Yet in all these things, we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. (Romans 8:37)

My help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth! He will not let you stumble; the one who watches over you will not slumber.( Psalm 121:2-3)

Prayer: Lord help me to be an instrument of encouragement and positivity to someone today. Help me to see how much you are for me. That you are looking for ways to bless me, because you believe in me. In Jesus Name Amen

19 March -Stop and Listen!

Stop and listen! I would have saved myself some grief today if I’d stopped sooner and listened. In a large household there is always plenty of noise, actually a lot of noise: talking, singing, music, tap dancing, arguing and the occasional emotional outburst.

It takes some serious self control at times to just listen. People around you, and strangely those closest to you know exactly which buttons to push. If we are not being particularity self aware we will react. Unfortunately not always as well as we would like to.

Today was one of those day. Yet in the midst of all the noise I heard God speaking. Breathe, stop, and listen to what is really going on here…and so I did. Then God spoke, He brought wisdom, revelation and most importantly understanding.

Lack of understanding others is a never ending source of tension and strife in our families, relationships, work places, churches, communities and society in general. An attorney once said, “Half of all the controversies and conflicts that arise among people are caused not by differences of opinion or an inability to agree, but by lack of understanding of one another. If we could reduce the number of misunderstandings, the courts wouldn’t be as crowded, there would be fewer violent crimes, the divorce rate would go down, and the amount of everyday stress most people experience would drop dramatically”.

So how do we learn to understand one another better? One way is to look at why we lack understanding, and to ask ourselves some questions:

Are we afraid? When we don’t understand others we often react in fear. Try to stop and learn about the other person, and their viewpoint and make an effort to understand what they are trying to do or say. Stop and listen.

Are you being self-centered? Are you putting the other person first. Unfortunately when we fail to understand it’s often because we have thought of our own interests and desires first.

The bible has some wise words on this topic ,” Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves“(Philippians 2:3)

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love“.(1 John 4:7-8)

Are you expecting everyone to think exactly like you on every opinion and value? If you are  you are setting yourself up to be disappointed. Look around you, everyone is different. God is creative, and made each of us unique in our own way. Instead of trying to mold everyone into your own box, learn to appreciate differences. If we learn to appreciate each other we often find where we are weak in a area the other person is strong and we end up complimenting one another.

Are you too alike? Often people who share similarities either get on famously or “butt heads”. Stop, listen and think how would I respond in this situation. When people are similar they often have the same emotions and point of view but they are just to similar to see it.

I read a great quote this week by John Maxwell, it said, “If you treat every person you meet as if he or she were the most important person in the world, you’ll communicate that he or she is somebody – to you”

When we stop, listen and seek to understand other people’s feelings and point of view, it goes a long way to creating great communication and relationships. It’s not always easy, you have to quiet the noise, step back, ask for God’s wisdom and be honest with your own short comings. But if we make the effort it’s worth it.

Prayer: Lord help me to take the time to stop, listen and ask you for understanding of others.Help me to love like you love. In Jesus Name Amen.




18 March – Dreams are made to Fly?

My youngest child Isaac is turning seven in a few weeks. He has a dream. He lives, talks, prays, plays and visualizes his dream every day, week in and week out, and has done for 2-3 years now. He is a lesson to me in what it looks like to be focused and to really, really want something.

Practicalities, finances, and just the realities of life could, if I’m not careful squash Isaac’s dream. But our task as his parents isn’t to do that. Our job is to help him whatever way and however we can. To teach him how to pray, how to keep believing, how to speak those things that are not as though they are, and to position himself and get him ready for his dream to come to pass. (Romans 4:17)

Isaac’s dream is to own a horse. He can tell you a myriad of facts about horses, watches YouTube videos on horse whispering, and can almost recite the Man from Snowy River movies word for word.

So today I booked Isaac in for riding lessons for his birthday gift. Why? Because we love Isaac and we understand how much this means to our little boy. If he dreams of owning a horse he needs to know how to care for and ride one. We are helping to make his dream a reality in whatever way we can.

What a positive impact on the world we could all make if  we found out what people are believing for, what they are dreaming for, and chose to help them in whatever way we can. We’d discover there is great fulfillment in focusing not just on ourselves but on others.

People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care. Everybody can be somebody when somebody understands and believes in them and their dreams.

The time and effort required on our part  to understand and help somebody feel important and to validate the desire of their hearts is minimal compared to the impact it makes to them.

The exciting consequence of encouraging and helping others is that when we help one person, we are really impacting a whole lot of other people also. What we give to one person overflows into the lives of all the people that person impacts too. I think that looks a lot like what real genuine love. The sort of love that the world desperately needs to see and experience.

The bible talks about that sort of love: God’s describes love as; patient. Love is kind. It does not want what belongs to others. It does not brag. It is not proud. It does not dishonor other people. It does not look out for its own interests. It does not easily become angry. It does not keep track of other people’s wrongs. Love is not happy with evil. But it is full of joy when the truth is spoken. It always protects. It always trusts. It always hopes. It never gives up”. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

The sad fact is that many people just stop believing and dreaming.People need love and encouragement not to let go of hopes and dreams. “Most people die from the neck up by age twenty-five because they stop dreaming” (Benjamin Franklin)

In the end the ability to understand, help and encourage others is a choice. Each person is capable of having the ability to understand and help someone else become all they are meant to be. Because in the end dreams aren’t enough as important as dreams are, they aren’t enough. Why? Because dreams need wings to take a person where they really want to be. They need help and encouragement to fly, (or to ride in Isaac’s case).

When was the last time you went out of your way to make someone feel special? When did you take the effort to help and encourage someone to reach their potential or accomplish their dream? I encourage you to make a decision to be a person who  does all they can to make others people’s dreams fly, and then watch the impact multiply.

Prayer:Lord help me to understand others around me. Help me to listen and see their dreams and potential, and to be someone who gives into that dream. Make me a person who influences this world with your love and goodness. In Jesus Name Amen.



17 March – Who’s way?

I recently asked God a question, “What am I supposed to do? “What do you want me to do?”
“I felt Him reply “Seek me! Seek my face and abide in me”.

Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ “For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. ( Matthew 6:32-33)

Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me. “I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing”. (John 15:4)

Each of us has something in our hand to give to others to bless them with. Jesus said “don’t worry, don’t toil or get into the worlds system. Simply seek me and  all those  things everyone runs after, I will add them to you. I will lead you in the way you should go”. He even says He will teach you to profit and prosper in all you do.

“I am the LORD your God, who teaches you to profit, Who leads you in the way you should go. (Isaiah 48:17)

No where in bible does it say run after success, money, prestige, even a husband, wife or partner etc. But it does say seek Jesus, fix your eyes on Jesus, surrender, and then He will add to you, He will prosper, He will give grace, and favour to you.

The thing is, to seek God we have to reach the point where we surrender. “Not my way, but your way”. When we surrender He takes what we have and makes something amazing. Whether it is for Him to prosper you, to bless you with healthy relationships, peace in your home, a fulfilling job, or for you to use what you have to bless someone else etc.

When we surrender we acknowledge that we’ve been trying to make things happen our own way and now we let go of our way, and choose to listen and do things God’s way. We don’t dictate to God, or bring a half-hearted surrender. We can’t have it both ways, our ways when we feel like it, and God’s way only  when we need help.

The thing He asks is for us to love Him, to seek after His way of doing things, to do what He asks. If you love Him, you do what He asks. Not our way but his way. It’s surrender in the little things, as well as the bigger things in our lives.

Jesus said “You are My friends if you do what I command you. “No longer do I call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you”(John 15:15

Too often we are like a horse with a bit and bridal. We will only be led if we are dragged. Instead God wants to lead us to fullness of life by simply guiding us with a look, or a quiet word. How much simpler and less full of drama our life would have if we were surrendered.” (Psalm 32:8-9)

Are you surrendered, does He have all your heart, all of your life, or just what is comfortable? It’s not just a one off decision, its walking every day in surrender.

Check your heart. How surrendered are you? Spend some time just seeking Jesus to get to know Him more,  do what He asks quickly. Jesus has blessing on His mind. If you seek him and surrender, He”ll lead and guide you into a good place.

Prayer: Lord forgive me when I have been like a horse with a bit, and difficult to lead and guide because of my own fear, stubbornness and lack of trust in you.  Help me to walk in surrender and to daily seek you.  In Jesus name Amen



16 March -His Grace Is Enough

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness” (2 Cor 12:9).

I love doing word studies and going back to the original language and studying out more deeply what things mean.
So this is what my digging into “My grace is sufficient” means a little more in detail.

What is grace? Grace is the free unmerited favour of God. It is favour shown to the unworthy, it is undeserved blessing, and a free gift.

It is privilege, pardon, and where God raises us up from debasement to dignity. Dishonor to honour, placing His likeness within us.

The word grace comes from the same root word as joy, or to rejoice. Grace causes rejoicing. It describes the supernatural ability of God to work miracles, answer prayer, heal the sick and bring deliverance.

Grace is like a buried treasure, you experience more as you dig deeper and deeper into it. No matter how we have or continue to mess up, fail, disappoint ourselves, or feel unworthy, God’s grace is sufficient. Sufficient means to be possessed of unfailing strength, and be strong, to defend, ward off, and to be satisfied and contented.

Whatever God asks of us, He promises His grace is sufficient for the task.
That means Gods grace is available to sustain us.

As we find and experience more and more of God’s grace it enables us to live free.  You can’t and don’t have to earn it. Grace is extended towards us, bought and paid for by Jesus. We simply take hold of this gift and let it work in us. We exchange our feelings of unworthiness for His acceptance, our failures for His supernatural ability to work miracles and answer prayer, our weakness for His strength.

If you or some one you know is feeling tired, worried, fearful, weak, unworthy, and unaccepted, then you are a perfect candidate to experience God’s Grace in your life.
Whatever and whoever the person, situation, or circumstances you may be facing know this – His Grace is Enough!

Prayer: Lord I need to experience your Grace in and through my life. Thank you that your grace is a gift bringing supernatural ability for whatever I face in life. When I am weak, you are strong in me. I receive your grace right now. In Jesus name amen

15 March – Watch your words

Most of us understand the power of spoken words, at least in some measure.
It seems that we are surrounded by far too many words that are designed to tear people down. The bible says “if anyone does not stumble in his words, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body”. If we are able to tame our words we can tame our body and mind. That’s powerful.

Without taming our words our tongue can be an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and with it we curse men, who have been made in His image. Out of the same mouth can proceed blessing and cursing (James 3:6-10)

Life and death are in the power of the tongue. The words we speak have the ability to heal or harm. They bring reconciliation or division. By our words people are called into their purpose, and by words dreams can be shattered.

There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing (Proverbs 12:18)

The devil has always been in the business of twisting words and causing fear and doubt. He wants our words because he knows how powerful they are. God’s word teaches us that we have unconditional acceptance and love, but the devil uses people’s words to undermine that truth. He causes words of judgments, criticism, sarcasm, negativity, complaining and gossip to spew forth from people’s mouth in the hope of hindering God’s purposes in people’s lives. People believe the words spoken to them.

But words of blessing have an amazing impact. Gentle words soothe and heal, bringing hope and refreshing. Words of encouragement strengthen the will and cause hope to spring up in our lives. Everyone benefits from motivating words of praise that lift our self worth.  When lacking, too often God’s plans and purposes for our lives may never be actualized.

God’s plan is for us to speak words of blessing, life, health, hope, joy, peace, success, strength and goodness into the world around us. To speak blessing and not curses. Too often we do the devil’s job for him, saying what he is doing and the evil and havoc he is causing. But we are commissioned to preach the good news, to proclaim blessing and bring heaven to earth. We are called to impact with positive words.

Make a decision today to speak words of blessing. Ask God to put a “watch over your mouth” and cause you to be more aware of what sort of words you are speaking.

“Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips! (Psalm 141:3)

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer”.(Psalm 19:14)

Our words matter. Let’s make them worth listening to.

Prayer: Lord thank you that you have blessed me with speech, and the ability to speak life and blessing into people’s lives. Help me to be a person whose words bring healing and reconciliation, and forgive me where my words have caused harm in the past. In Jesus Name Amen.


14 March -Time Out!

Have you ever felt like you haven’t stopped all day? Or that your mind has been racing from one thing to the next 24/7, but you don’t feel like you achieved half of what you set out to do?

Life can feel like you are riding a merry go round with plenty of action, but no real movement to achieving any set goals or reaching a destination.

I’ve learnt the hard way, that if I’m feeling like that I need to take a break, recharge and relax spiritually, mentally and physically, and clear as much of my schedule as possible.
Sometimes we simply need to stop, be still, and breathe.

Here are some reasons and positives of regularly taking time out:

We need to constantly reevaluate our priorities
It’s too easy to slip into the worlds system and attitudes of striving, stressing, worrying and discontentment.
Seemingly unawares we can fall in step with what everyone else is doing, even if they are not the values, beliefs or life you want to live. When we stop it allows us to reevaluate, and check we are on the “right track”.

Be still and wait on God. It’s in being still and waiting quietly that we off load, and are spiritually refreshed and strengthened.

Be still, and know that I am God (Psalm 46:10)

He gives strength to the weary, And to him who lacks might He increases power”. (Is 40:29:11)

Don’t let the urgent overtake the important. When we pause, evaluate and don’t go rushing into situations, but instead focus on what is important, the so called “urgent” problems often will take care of themselves.

Preparation for tomorrow. Taking time to reflect on yesterday, and evaluating honestly our successes and failures helps us prepare for tomorrow.  No experience is ever wasted if we learn from it and adjust positively from any mistakes.  God works all things out for good…

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”.(Romans 8:28)

Taking time out increases our capacity for thankfulness, and the ability to count our blessings. When we are constantly rushing around we can miss the miracles and good things that happen all around us every day. It’s good to stop and give thanks.

Give out of the overflow. Taking time out helps prepare us for the pressures and battles of life. If we are running on empty, not giving time for physical, mental, emotional and spiritual rest we will be drawing on depleted strength, instead of an overflow. When we take time out to be  refreshed we are able to live and give out of the overflow.

Relaxation and rest are vital to us feeling right. Our emotional, physical,  mental and spiritual health will greatly determine how we react to situations. The healthier we feel the better we are equipped to manage difficulties and decisions.

Schedule in weekly time outs. It can be as simple as turning the phone and electronics off, getting the kids looked after for a few hours, or just sleeping in. Find what prospers your soul and take some time out.

“Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers” (3 John 1:2)

Prayer: Lord help me to take time out to re-energize. I don’t want to be constantly moving but never getting anywhere. Reveal to me if I need to make any changes in my life as I stop and wait on you. In Jesus name. Amen.

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