Dayle's Blog


May 2017

22 May – Taking the lid off

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When we go through difficult or traumatic experiences it causes more damage than we often realise. We can even shut down our emotional responses in an effort to just get through whatever we are facing, almost like “putting a lid” on our internal world so that we can simply survive what we are experiencing.

When we suffer loss, disappointment, death, sickness, rejection etc we can “put the lid on” the hurt and emotion these experiences carry. The problem is that some people forget to take the lid off ever again. They live in a confined often fearful space, and even though they may look okay on the outside, their internal world is suffering, and the longer the lid stays on the more negative the effects elsewhere. It can manifest in sickness, anxiety, anger, control and trust issues, and an inability or difficulty to communicate, connect and receive from God and others.

Taking the lid off can be scary. We don’t want to have to revisit some things, or think about why we are feeling and reacting sometimes years later. We can even feel like we should be over this by now.

But God wants us to be healed and whole and He knows that even though it’s tough to do, it’s for our own good that we be honest about where we are at. Trauma can mess with the internal workings of our very being and it’s really important to talk, to get wise counsel, and to allow God into every space, so we can soak in his healing presence and hear the truth of His word. I am a great believer in just soaking and soaking and soaking in God’s presence because when we do things move out of our life, and He moves in.

Today if you have “put the lid on” to cope with something in your life, remember you need to take it off again at some stage. Otherwise all the hurt and trauma will grow, fester and eventually come out somewhere, and it’s usually not very pretty when it does.

Take the lid off, and let the hurt out and God in, so He can heal and restore you to full health in every way.

“He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:27)

“For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well- balanced mind and discipline and self-control.” (2 Timothy 1:7 Amplified Bible)

“You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.” (Isaiah 26:3)

Prayer: Jesus thankyou that you know what it is to go through trauma as you went through it on the cross. Help me to trust you enough to take the lid off and let you in. In Jesus Name Amen.

21 May – Just Ask!

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Today our eldest son was playing an early morning soccer game and needed a lift to get home as we were unable to attend his game. At one point it looked like we were going to have to drive a two hour round trip to get Him after he’d finished, or he’d have to wait in the wet and cold for several hours for a lift with his coach. However he wanted to get home as soon as possible as we had a friend from overseas visiting and he didn’t want to miss all the fun with them.

So I asked… I prayed and asked God to please sort it out so that our son could be home in time and we wouldn’t have to be driving all over the countryside. And God answered, and our son arrived home in good time.

I was talking recently with a friend and they needed to find something they had misplaced. They decided to ask God for some help. They said, “God I really need to find this, I’m rushed, have little time and I need your help”. Hardly a minute had passed when they felt to walk into their carport and look into a specific box, and there was the missing item. They asked and God answered.

My husband and I with 5 of our children were travelling overseas a few years ago. We were believing God to provide the finances for one of the places we had to stay. We’d been hearing about God multiplying money when you ask, so my husband and I both felt to take a $50 note and pray over it that it would multiply to meet our need.  We prayed and I felt God say, “it’s in the drawer”. I looked in my bedside table drawer but saw nothing, but decided to just keep believing that God would answer our prayer. A few days before our trip my husband was looking in the office drawer and came across an envelope full of money – but it wasn’t Australian dollars but Thai baht. Thailand was the location we needed the accomodation and food money for the overnight stop over we had. We had been on a missions trip the previous year and had 30 baht left at the end of the trip (worth less than $2), that wasn’t worth exchanging back into Australian dollars, so we’d put it in an envelope in our office drawer. But as we now counted it we realised there was far, far more than 30 baht in the envelope. There was over 11,400 baht, which was close to $500.00 Australian dollars. It paid for the accommodation for all seven of us, a meal out at a lovely restaurant and a great start to our holiday. We asked and God answered and multiplied our money, plus he’d made it easy for us so that we had the correct currency to meet our need.

I could tell you story after story of God answering people’s prayers when they asked. That’s because He really does want us to ask when we need help with our everyday lives; where to park at the shops, the location of a missing item we could spend hours looking for otherwise, and the various times when we need provision, healing, comfort, direction and other God encounters and interventions in our lives.

If you have a need, a desire in your heart, or simply want God to move in your world – Ask!. Ask in faith, believing that He hears you, and that He does want to answer your prayers. He cares about the little things in our lives as well as the big, and He wants us to ask and involve Him more in our everyday world. So instead of worrying or running yourself into the ground trying to do everything alone – why not simply ask God!

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” (Philippians 4:6)

Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.” (1 John 5:14)

Prayer: Lord thank you that you love to answer my prayers. Help me to make you a part of my everyday life so that rather than having to try and handle everything myself I know that I can always come to you and Ask. In Jesus Name Amen.

20 May – Loving Him Back!

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I was reminded today of just how much God loves us. He really does love us so much! Our minds can’t really comprehend His love for us, and how He longs for us to know Him. As a result many people can leave Him out of their everyday lives, of their thoughts and their decisions, even when they profess to know Him.

Sadly we can all do that to some degree, when God just wants to be loved by us, and to be able to love us back. He doesn’t put huge expectations upon us, or hit us with a big stick when we have messed up. He loves us, and if He does correct or discipline us it’s because He loves us so much.

My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, or lose heart when He rebukes you. For the Lord disciplines the ones He loves.” (Hebrews 12:6) 

“What marvelous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it—we’re called children of God! That’s who we really are.” (1 John 3:1)

Today, reconnect with the one who loves you so much that He gave up everything to win you; just like a lover woos their loved one, so too God wants to woo you…He wants to be noticed by you, so that you might desire to find out all about Him; about His heart and the things that matter to Him. About His plans, and dreams and how things work in His Kingdom. He’s not angry or resentful, but waiting for us to hear His voice calling so that we will turn our hearts and faces towards Him, and simply love Him back.

Prayer: Lord I’m sorry for ignoring you, and for all the times I get caught up in things that really don’t matter. Thank you for loving me. I want you to know that I love you back. In Jesus Name Amen.

19 May – Let your pile of good things grow!

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I read a quote recently I liked, it said, “instead of thinking about solving your whole life, what if you just think about adding additional good things, one at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow.”

Sometimes we can have the mindset that if all the areas of our life that we aren’t especially happy about were no longer an issue we would feel more joyful and content. So we get busy fixating upon the negative piles in our life, and get less and less joyful and expectant of God doing good things as we do.

The bible teaches that “as a man thinks so shall he be, and to think upon those things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely of good report, and praiseworthy.” (Proverbs 23:7; Philippians 4:8) God actually wants us to be focusing and believing for wonderful, amazing, awe-inspiring things every day. You can’t overdose on joy and good things, so we can just keep on adding these good things one at a time, or more if we can manage it, into our lives.

So I asked some of our kids this morning how they would grow their pile of good things today – the answer from our teenage son was, “sport, I’d add more and more sport, and food, but then I could get fat, so I’d have to add more sport.”

Our eleven-year-old daughter said, “I’d add to my pile of good things by helping other people, and being friendly because that’s what makes me happy.

 Our youngest child was a little shy about what he’d add to his pile of good things, but finally decided; “he’d spend more time with the family doing fun things together.. and riding horses”.

 Today instead of looking at all that isn’t just the way we’d like it, let’s think about how we can add additional good things to our pile of joy so our good pile, and not any negative piles, just keeps on growing.

Today schedule in some time to do something you enjoy, even if it’s just one thing; whether that’s playing or watching sport and eating like my teenage son, helping others, hanging out with friends, spending time with loved ones, or something totally unique to you. Make a quality decision to add to your pile of joy and good things, and as you do ask God to fill you with His unspeakable, overflowing life giving joy. You’ll be glad you did!

Prayer: Lord thank you that you surround me with good things today. Would you please help me to shift my focus off any negative piles in my life, and that I would instead be intent on adding to my joyful, good things pile, so that it would grow. Please fill me with

18 May – Joy – God’s secret weapon!

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Yesterday I was giving thanks for good things, and acknowledging that God really does want to bless our lives. I was feeling very content and joyful as I drove home from our eldest son’s soccer training later that night, when suddenly I saw a flash as I drove through the traffic lights. I quickly checked the speedometer to check I hadn’t been speeding. Nope, all good with my speed, so why the flash? And then it came, “like a bee in my ear” with the words, “Oh you’ve got a speeding ticket now, how much will that be, what a waste…blah blah blah”. The devil is a sneak and his tactic is to come suddenly, and if possible immediately to steal from us. He attempts to quickly come at us when we have just heard from God, we’ve had some good news, or we’re just having a great day. He comes, Jesus warns us to, “steal, kill and destroy.” (John 10:10)

Unfortunately depending on our life experience and relationship with God it is very easy to have our joy and expectation of good things happening in our lives stolen from us. We can get tired and worn down, and consequently stolen from. Instead of having an expectation of good, we brace ourselves for the “next thing”, which is why we need to be strengthened regularly with God’s secret weapon. King David knew what this secret weapon was when he cried out to God and prayed, “restore to me the joy of my salvation and uphold me with your generous Spirit.” (Psalm 51:12). Nehemiah 8:10 also says, “the joy of the Lord is your strength”.

God’s secret weapon to bring us through all we may face and empower us to withstand every attack, is joy! Without this joy we can start to only see our past or the problems immediately before us, rather than looking ahead to the future and better things ahead. Without joy we can lose our “bounce back power”, and a faith and expectation for good things.

If you have been stolen from, or you were like me busy expecting good things, to then suddenly have an annoying little niggle come and try to steal your expectation and joy, just like a ‘bee in your ear,” then I encourage you to go back to God’s promises and what He has spoken in His word. He promises He will replace any despair we have with a confidence and joy. He will fill our life with good things, that He won’t withhold any good thing from us, and that He delights in our prosperity – everything going well for us. (Psalm 35:27) He freely gives us His joy to keep our hopes alive, and the ability to keep walking, to keep praying, to keep praising, to keep giving, to keep expecting.

Don’t fall for the devil’s tactics to steal from you, but know that whatever you may face in your day you are not alone, nor are you powerless to change it. God is able to do far more than you can possibly think, ask, dream or imagine. So how about we start imagining, expecting and speaking an increase of good things happening, so that God will do far more in and through us.

Now to Him who is able to do superabundantly more than all that we dare ask or think (infinitely beyond our greatest prayers, hopes or dreams), according to His power that is at work within us.” (Ephesians 3:20)

Let the Lord be magnified. Who has pleasure in the prosperity of His servant.” (Psalm 35:27)

Prayer: Lord I ask you to help me to keep expecting good things in my life, even when the devil may try to steal from me. Please release in me the ability to dream and imagine for amazing joy, and good things happening from you. In Jesus Name Amen.


17 May – Expect good things!

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God’s got a plan and it’s all-good! Actually good is not a big or descriptive enough word to explain the plans He has for us.

I love the passage in the bible that says just how much goodness God wants to bestow upon us. It says, “He who did not spare his own Son but gave Him up for us all, how will He not also, with Him, grant us all things?” (Romans 8:32)

Actually there is more – the bible says, “every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadows.” (James 1:17)

If you then being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him!” (Matthew 7:11)

“They who seek the Lord shall not be in want of any good thing.” (Psalm 34:10)

There is no end to His goodness, but we can limit the flow of it by trying to do things our way, or when we hold onto unforgiveness, bitterness, or refuse to let go, and let God into our lives. I discovered that to receive all that God wants to bestow on me, and to experience His goodness more deeply I have to let go, and let God. Sounds simple enough, but it’s a daily surrender of my will and emotions to Him, and a decision to focus upon, and be open to receiving the good things He freely desires to give me.

To receive God’s goodness we have to let go of the past, of disappointments, of mindsets that it’s going to be hard, of expectations of lack, sickness, and low self esteem and worth. Often the picture we have of ourselves, and of any good happening in our lives is far below God’s heart for us. This poor image and low expectation can definitely limit our feelings of worthiness and faith to receive, and the belief that God would choose to do good things in our lives.

Today take another look at what God says about bestowing His goodness upon you. Jesus gave His very life to set us free from every evil, so how will He not also grant us ALL things. He says He will actually fill our mouths with good things. That He forgives us of all our wrong doing when we come to him and ask forgiveness, heals all our diseases, redeems our life from destruction, and crowns our lives with loving-kindness and mercy; and then to top it off He fills our mouths with good things and renews our youth so we can further enjoy everything He has for us. (Psalm 103:2-5). Expect God’s goodness to shower upon you today.

Prayer: Lord thank you for your goodness and desire to fill my life with your goodness. I really don’t have to be afraid to let go and let you into all of my life, because you only ever want good things for me, far beyond what I could ever imagine. I receive your goodness today. In Jesus Name Amen. (Ephesians 3:20)



16 May – Beautiful Surrender


Surrender is an interesting word and carries with it the imagery of a battlefield because it implies a giving up of rights to a conqueror. When an opposing army surrenders they lay down their arms, and the winner takes control.

Surrender to God is similar in the sense that Jesus has conquered every evil force, but instead of coming to plunder our lives like a conquering army does, He comes to set the oppressed free; to deliver us from the slavery of sin and death, and to silence and destroy the works of what was once the world’s evil dictator – the devil.

The bible says, “The Son of God appeared to destroy the devil’s work.” (1 John 3:8)

 “For He (Jesus) rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son.” (Colossians 1:13)

When He (Jesus) had disarmed the rulers and authorities, He made a public display of them, having triumphed over them through Him. (Colossians 2:15)

For those of us who have chosen to follow Jesus and His way of living, surrender is an integral part of our lives as we choose to turn away from those things that don’t please Him. All we are doing in surrendering is choosing which side we are on – the darkness or the light! When we surrender to God we reap all the benefits of the conqueror, and are set free from the grip of the devil who still tries to deceive the world that He is undefeated as he looks for those he may devour. When we refuse to surrender to God we essentially surrender to  the control of evil, and the devils lying tactics to wrap us up in chains of bondage once more. (1 Peter 5:8)

We must realise that to relinquish control of our lives to the one who loves us is not a hardship when we fully realise just how good God is, and how very much He loves each one of us. Surrender causes an intimacy and connection to Him that nothing else will.

Everyday we have a choice to make; do we continue following our own will and desires, and essentially listen to the devil’s lies, or do we surrender to God’s will? For He has an amazing plan for our lives, and surrendering to Him means we set aside our own plans, knowing that His plan for us is always with our very best in mind, unlike our own plans which can often end badly or leave us feeling unfilled. God wants us to surrender to Him, so He can then protect and guide us away from evil, and bless and position us to receive the abundant, meaningful, joy-filled life He desires for us, and then for us to share that joy with all those around us.

The more areas of our lives we fully surrender to God the more we will discover the freedom and power of living that way. Where we were once weak, we suddenly become strong; where broken, we are healed; where confused we gain clarity; where fearful we become bold, where there was only ashes and destruction, we discover in surrender those ashes springing forth into something amazing and brand new.

Today, don’t waste another day fighting God, and believing the devils lies that God is trying to spoil your fun. Choose what could be called the “beautiful surrender”, for that is what He will do in you when you choose light rather than darkness, and God’s way rather than your own – He will cause something amazing and beautiful to happen in your life.

Have a listen to this song called “Beautiful Surrender” by Jonathan David & Melissa Helser to encourage you today.

Prayer: Lord please forgive me where I have been wilful and chosen my way over yours. Help me Lord to understand just how much you love me, and that there is no fear in surrender to you, because you will never cause me harm, or ask me to give anything up that you won’t then replace with something so much better. I choose to walk in surrender to you today. In Jesus Name Amen.

15 May – Your’e gonna be okay!


Today I woke up feeling discouraged. It wasn’t for any particular reason except that sometimes life doesn’t turn out exactly how we would like, and if  we’re not careful those feelings of disappointment can sneak up on us. The underlying feeling that what my generation was told in that “anything is possible, and we just have to “step out, risk, be bold and we’ll succeed” isn’t exactly as many may have envisaged. Sometimes we do step out, take risks, be bold, and….we fail.

To be honest I have witnessed my share of risk taking and failures. Growing up my visionary, risk-taking Dad stepped out over and over again, and went bankrupt over and over again. Our family has seen its fare share of failed marriages, death, disease, loss, disappointment and heartache. If we allow ourselves most people could find reasons for being disappointed and discouraged. Perhaps we all at times can feel like we want to do so much with our lives, and yet it seems so often we achieve so little of what we signed up for.

But today God spoke to me and reminded me of Jesus’ meeting with a fisherman called Simon Peter. Peter had toiled all night fishing and caught nothing. He had failed at his trade and was obviously feeling tired, despondent and probably a little fed up. He knew the fish were out there, but he just couldn’t seem to catch them. Then Jesus comes along and climbs into his empty boat and tells him to pull a little way out into the water so that He can preach to the multitudes on the shore. When he had finished speaking to the crowd Jesus looks at Peter and tells Him to, “Launch out into the deep and to let down His nets for a catch.” (Luke 5:4)

“Master,” Simon replied, “we have worked through the night without catching anything. But because you say so, I will let down the nets.” When they had done so, they caught such a large number of fish that their nets began to tear. So they signalled to their partners in the other boat to come and help them, and they came and filled both boats so full that they began to sink.” (Luke 5:5-7)

The thing about discouragement, failure and disappointment is that it may move us, but it doesn’t faze God. He works within a different system called the Kingdom of Heaven, and when we have toiled and toiled trying to make things work out, He will always come along and offer to take the load we are carrying, and then show us His better way. Even when we have failed, He says to us, just like He did to Peter, to “come over here and cast your nets again, but this time don’t get into toil, but work in the framework of my way of doing things.” For it is very easy to get into toil, even while doing the things we may have felt God said for us to do. We toil when we get into fear and worry, and a lack of trust in God’s goodness towards us. We toil when we neglect doing the things God says in His word to do because we are too busy trying to make things work out.

Today wherever you have toiled and seen only failure and disappointment for your effort, take heart and listen again to the voice of Jesus, and at His word take a fresh step of faith. At His word choose once more to try again, as you learn from your mistakes, follow the wisdom and instruction found in God’s Word and follow the leading of Jesus The Good Shepherd, just as Simon Peter did in his moment of failure, and as a result caught such a catch his nets began to burst.

Jesus said, “Launch out into the deep and let down you nets for a catch” (Luke 5:4)

We have toiled all night catching nothing, nevertheless at your word I will let down the net. And when they had done this, they caught a great number of fish.”

Be encouraged as you listen to this song by Brian and Jen Johnson “You’re gonna be okay”.

Prayer: Lord thank you that you don’t see failure as a reason to give up, but simply a platform to learn and grow from. Please help me to listen again to your voice leading me, and to hear the direction and guidance you have for me to once more “launch out into the deep”. In Jesus name Amen.

14 May – Who’s in charge of your schedule?

putting god first

We can all be prone to packing our schedules so tight with appointments, commitments, and everyday life that we often struggle to find a moment to spare. Then strangely enough we let everyone know how busy we are, like it makes us feel more important to be so busy.

But what would it like to seek first God in our schedules, and let Him be in charge of them; to seek first His kingdom and His way of doing things? (Matthew 6:33). What would it be like to begin to look at our schedules and the tangible things like meetings, appointments and our plans, and then give proper priority and place to the intangibles in our lives, like who we are becoming, our hopes, dreams, relationships, and our connection to God.

Without conscious thought and intervention into our everyday schedules the habit of over-scheduling ensures that the intangible things we care about will take a backseat to the urgent pressing things in our lives, rather than what is really important to us.

One way to begin to pursue what makes us become who we really desire to be, is to ask God to be in charge of our time and schedules. To ask, “how would you God have me spend my time today?” I know many of us in theory think we do put God first already,  but in reality do we? For handing over to God our schedule, diary, and complete calendar is what seeking Him and His way of doing things is all about.

We begin by putting God first; listening and being directed by His leading, and then everything else fits in around what He says. God knows what we need; the demands on our lives and our workload, but He also knows the hidden dreams and secrets of our hearts. His desire is to lighten our load, and to get us to where we need to be to fulfil the dreams in our hearts, and His plan for our lives. His way of scheduling and guiding our life is filled with love and wisdom, and no matter how grand our plans are, He promises that “He will do superabundantly beyond what we can ask, think, dream or imagine”. (Ephesians 3:20)

Begin today to give God control of your schedule, and fill your day with those things that He says to spend your time on. Then fit everything else around what is actually important, rather than the urgent. As you do you will gradually find yourself becoming the kind of person you want to be.

Prayer: Lord help me to know how you would have me spend my day, and to not get constantly caught up with the urgent, whilst allowing the important more intangible things be pushed to the side or relegated for a later that never  comes…Help me to trust you completely with my schedule. In Jesus name Amen.


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