Dayle's Blog


September 2019

19 Sept – Moving On


Forgive quickly and move on. It sounds easy enough but in reality forgiveness takes courage and effort on our part to face our hurts, disappointments, abuse, betrayal and whatever else may have occurred to cause us to be holding things in our hearts against others. 

However we help ourselves most when we face our heart issues, be honest about how we feel and then actively choose for our own good and because it’s the example Jesus set for us to live, to forgive people, let go and move on. The alternative us un-forgiveness which often leads to bitterness, harm, mistrust in our relationships and can open the door to sickness in our lives.

Without forgiveness there can be no real healing of the hurt for we end up carrying un-forgiveness around with us, going over and over what others have done while the other person/s probably don’t even realise our issue, think about us, care or even remember. We don’t have to pretend we forget what they may have done but we can face it, forgive, let go and move on so that a root of bitterness doesn’t find its root in our hearts, hold us back from our destiny and steal all the new things God has in store for us.

So How Do We Forgive?

1. We choose – we have to decide to face the issue of what caused us to hold un-forgiveness in our heart in the first place and not just push the hurt aside and carry on without dealing with the issue properly. We actively look at our hurt and un-forgiveness and then choose to forgive. It’s important to understand we can’t live just by how we feel, because most of the time we won’t feel like forgiving at all. Yet God says forgive, so we forgive knowing that He asks us to do so for our own good.

It’s okay to get some help to work through any hurts, abuse or issues that just seem too painful to deal with alone. Go and talk to someone and or a professional who can walk with you through the process of facing your pain and letting it go.

2. Depend on God to help. We need His help to live a life of forgiveness and freedom. He will help us to walk in forgiveness, to let go and to move on, because He has better things for us.  The Lord recently said to me, “Focus focus focus. It’s all about focus. You can sit in your anger and resentment or look at me and let my goodness and grace flood through you.” If we look to Him, ask for His help and healing He will give us the strength and courage to forgive.

3. Pray –Pray for our enemies and bless those who curse us (Romans 12:14; Luke 6:27-28). For as we forgive we make room in our hearts for good. We overcome evil with good.

As we forgive we become more open to the goodness of life instead of looking at everything through the eyes of bitterness. Forgiveness draws good people to us, rather than repelling those people God wants to bring into our lives. Often opportunities, new relationships, ideas, creativity and answers will flow into our life as we become more open to receive, rather than being full of bitterness, anger and strife.

Forgiveness is good for us and as we choose to face our pain, forgive as quickly as we can and move on, we learn to trust God to heal and protect us. As we do this God will invaribly restore our hope and faith in humanity and reveal to us that there are actually good people still out there that He has positioned for us to meet.

Today choose to obey God’s way of doing things and live a life of forgiveness. Be set free as you move on from holding onto people’s wrongs against you and make room  for new people, places and things in your life. The world is a beautiful, amazing place. Don’t let un-forgiveness and hurts you have suffered steal its wonder from you.

Pour out all your worries and stress upon him and leave them there, for he always tenderly cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 TPT)

Trust in the Lord completely, and do not rely on your own opinions.
With all your heart rely on him to guide you, and he will lead you in every decision you make. Become intimate with him in whatever you do, and he will lead you wherever you go.” (Proverbs 3:5-6 TPT)

“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:14-15)

Prayer: Lord please help me to let go of un-forgiveness quickly and to move. I forgive those who have hurt or damaged me in any way.  I give you my hurt and anger and choose to trust you to take care of me and to heal my heart today. In Jesus name Amen.

18 Sept – When People Are Being Plain Awful

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I’m going to call it as it is today….sometimes people can be plain awful. There is just no other word to explain the behaviour and conduct of others except that they are being awful.

Today I was told we weren’t enough of something…however it’s not the first time I’ve had the not enough. Actually I’ve been told some interesting things over the years, like that my husband and I are too happy. Or that I make others feel too old because I look young, or that I’m too that or not enough of something else.

The long and short of it is that when you are focusing on being and doing what God has created you for there are those who will struggle with you being you. Some may even attempt to try and take you down, to speak against you and to allow jealousy to dictate their actions. But the best way to overcome and overlook others opinions and yes awfulness, is to look to Jesus, remind yourself that He is with you and to determine to win and to just keep winning and being spectacular.

We win against our past, our hurts, other’s people’s smallness and any attacks on us as a person when we just keep seeking to love God and to be the best person we can be; to excel, explore, to push against any limitations and to face and overcome every fear.

Understand that people are people and everyone has their issues. Our battle isn’t against people – against flesh and blood, but against the devil who actively seeks to use whatever means, including other people’s weaknesses to undermine God’s plan for our lives.  (Ephesians 6:12) Don’t allow his tactics to undermine you or to cause you to modify or lessen who you are as a person. Don’t allow anything or anyone to make you doubt God’s plan for your life. You have a destiny and God says you are loved, accepted, an overcomer, a winner and able to do all things through Jesus who gives you strength. (Philippians 4:13)

Today flick off any comments or awful behaviour that you have been at the receiving end of and, “Let’s not get tired of doing what is good for at just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” (Galatians 6:9 NIV)

“Therefore since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” (Hebrews 12:1-2 NIV)

Prayer: Lord I forgive those who have been plain awful today and I ask that you would fill me with your grace, love and strength. Thank you that I can do all things because you give me strength and hold my future in your hands. I trust you to lead me into all that you have planned for me today. In Jesus name Amen

17 Sept – What Do You Have In Your Hand?

So often we discount the very thing that could be or is able to be used to create the very answer, break through and life we seek. We get used to us…our abilities, thoughts, skills, background, connections and talent and then far too often discount both ourselves and what we carry.

So today I want to encourage you to stop discounting or overlooking what you have available right now and instead ask yourself, “what do I have in my hand and am I using it?” Because everyone possesses something that God has given them. Everyone has something other people can benefit from. The question is have we stopped to recognise it and are we going to use it to the very best of our ability?

When Moses answered God’s call to go and speak to Pharaoh to tell him to let his people go free, I’m pretty sure he didn’t expect God to use the staff he carried in his hand. His staff was for shepherding sheep, not performing signs and wonders.  When God questioned Moses what he had in his hand concerning his staff, Moses probably didn’t even give what he had carried for years throughout the desert much thought. However God saw Moses’ staff  and chose to use it as a sign for Pharaoh.

The staff was used by God and turned into a snake and then back to a staff again. It was pointed at the heavens and used to bring forth sudden weather changes. It was ultimately used to part the Red sea and wipe out the whole of the Egyptian army.

Or take Samson who picked up what was available to him and with his strength a jawbone of an animal was used to defeat one thousand soldiers. A whole army had come after him, but God was with Samson and as long as Samson had holy hands and a holy heart, no army could defeat him. (Judges 15:14,15).

David a shepherd boy, anointed and chosen to be the next King was handy with a slingshot. Previously, he had used that slingshot to kill a bear and a lion as he protected his Father’s sheep, yet now that slingshot in David’s hand was the very instrument that God would use to bring victory against the giant Goliath and the whole of the Philistine army. (I Samuel 17:8-36)

You may feel like you don’t have anything in your hand today, but we all have something to offer and are able to use, especially when we come to God and are willing and choose to listen to His promptings. What does God keep saying, what desire and dreams has He placed in your heart? What gifts, abilities or even just an interest do you have? Because if we are prepared to take what we have and offer it to God He will do far more than we could ever imagine, dream of or expect. God just asks that we take what we have, be diligent with it, choose to be available and are prepared to grow and develop so as to turn that ability into a skill which He can help us to use to do mighty things. (Ephesians 3:20)

What do you have in your hand today? What is God signalling that He wants to use in you and how can you prepare and position yourself to run at your destiny just as Moses, Samson and David ran at their’s?

Don’t be afraid. Don’t discount what or who you are. David was able to run into battle because he was confident and knew what he possessed. He knew how to use that slingshot. He’d already killed a lion and a bear. He talked nothing but positive talk, and acknowledged the battle he faced was God’s and therefore God was with him. (1 Sam 17:47)

God is no respecter of persons, but of faith. (Acts 10:34). He doesn’t care where we’ve come from, who said what about us or the mess we may or may not have made. He doesn’t care about any of that, but only the condition of our hearts and our willingness to go out and be all that He created us to be, and for us to bless and impact the world with what we have in our hand.

Prayer: Lord please take what I have in my hand and everything I am and please create something amazing in and through me. Begin today Lord. In Jesus name Amen

16 Sept – Take It To Court

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If someone commits a crime and messes with or steals what is rightfully yours, would you just sit back and do nothing? Or would you stand up, use the legal system available to you and take your case to the courts?

The question is, if we are prepared to do that in the earth’s system why are we not doing that in the spiritual court system available to us when the devil steals from us? The devil has no business messing with our lives, because Jesus defeated him when He died and rose again. But if we allow it he will try and steal from us and attempt to infiltrate our territory. He will attempt in every area of our lives to deceive, entice and try to make us think we must live under the curses of sickness, lack, addictions, brokenness and toil, instead of in The Blessing that God says is rightfully ours. (Galatians 3:13)

What we need to do is stand up and take the devil to court. Wherever we have had things stolen from us; our health, finances, family, relationships, our future, our peace and joy then we need to get hold of God’s word which is our legal document, gather our defence and bring the devil before the courts of heaven so that he will be shut down from messing with our lives and the places where we live.

The problem is that many people struggle to do this because they don’t know who they are; they don’t know that if they come to Jesus and ask him to be part of their lives, and confess their sins, that He is faithful and just to forgive them and cleanse them from all wrongdoing. (1 John 1:9)

They don’t know that every curse has been broken, and that The Blessing of heaven is theirs. (Galatians 3:13; Duet 28: 1-14).

They don’t know that by trust and faith in their covenant agreement with God they win every time! So the devil goes on stealing, killing, and destroying, constantly looking for ways to infiltrate and ruin people’s lives.

However all anyone needs do is get hold of their legal document, which is found in God’s word, and present their case, (just as you would in an earthly court of law), to God the righteous judge, in the courts of heaven.

If you know Jesus then you have access, and every right to bring your case before God our righteous judge. Jesus is our advocate in the heavenly courtrooms and His sacrifice on the cross speaks for us. (1 John 2:1) Whatever the enemy may have to bring against you cannot stand against Jesus’ finished work on the cross. Simply confess any sin, then come to God, plead your case and speak out your legal rights. The devil is judged according to our covenant agreement with God, which means that we get to take back what is rightfully ours. Take back your relationships, your health, your future, your children, your city, and your nation.

Today stand up, research your case and legal rights and authority in the Word of God, and take it to the courts!

If we [freely] admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just [true to His own nature and promises], and will forgive our sins and cleanse us continually from all unrighteousness [our wrongdoing, everything not in conformity with His will and purpose]”. (1 John 1:9 AMP)

Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.” (Psalm 100:4)

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16)

Prayer: Holy Spirit would you please guide me in researching and understanding my legal rights found in your Word. Teach me how to stand against the tactics of the devil and to take it to the courts of heaven to receive what is rightfully mine. In Jesus name Amen.



15 Sept – Look At The Bright Side

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Today is our 29th wedding anniversary and if there is one one thing I’ve learnt over 29 of being married it is to look at the bright side of life.  This may sound obvious, but for me it did not come naturally. I am a details person and if left to my own devices I have been known to fixate on problems and to worry far too much for my own good.

However it’s the ability to look on the bright side and to realise that the things I’m stressing over I probably won’t even remember in 20 years time that has been one of my greatest lessons. Most things are as Paul says in the bible, momentary concerns and if we choose to look on the bright side. To look for the positives, on what we have learnt through our difficulties, and how we can do better next time that will give us strength and understanding to keep growing stronger and stronger as the years go by. Looking on the bright side also means recognising God’s hand upon our situations and then searching for His strategy to bring us out the other side of any trouble or pain.

We will no doubt be tougher from gaining some bumps and bruises, but we will also gain some faith muscles to show for our journey.

Today choose to look on the bright side; to look for the positives and even the smallest sliver of light that you can then head towards. God is there and He always has a way through. He promises strength and comfort for the journey, better things ahead and a  strategy to walk you out of darkness and into the light.

For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!” (2 Corinthians 4:17)

“The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.” (Psalm 18:2)

Prayer: Lord thank you that anything I may be facing doesn’t have to last, and that you have a way through. Help me to look on the bright side today; to look for your hand and presence in my situation and for your strategy to overcome whatever I may be facing as I grow stronger in you every day. In Jesus name Amen.



14 Sept – Living In The Moment

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We’ve just waved goodbye to our fifth child and youngest teenage daughter as she heads off to her first ball. All week she’s been in preparation and organising her nails, hair, makeup, high heels and little black dress. But what her Dad and I were thinking as we waved goodbye was, “how did that happen, she was our little girl yesterday and now look at her?

Which made me reflect on the importance of living in the moment and not allowing life to crowd out what is really important in our lives.

Take for instance the fact that a child has 940 Saturdays between birth and finishing high school. 940 Saturday’s may sound like a lot but if you have or know a 5 year old, 260 Saturdays have gone by already in their life.

It’s so easy to go into automatic pilot with our lives, especially when you have kids, are busy studying or are working crazy hours at your job. If our minds are elsewhere and preoccupied during all those moments we share with others or our experiences then we’ve missed making the most of those times.

Instead I recommend trying to stay in the moment. Focus on seeing those around you, hearing them, enjoying them and understanding them. Focus on what you are doing right now.

We do seem to continually need to remind ourselves that everyday is a gift from God. Most of the things we stress about or allow our time and energy to be spent on are things we for the most part won’t even remember in 20 years time. So if it isn’t going to be significant in 20 yrs time perhaps we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be consumed or distracted by it now. 

God’s word encourages us to; “Look carefully how you walk! Live purposely and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise (sensible, intelligent people). Making the most of the time (buying up each opportunity) because the days are evil. Therefore do not be vague and thoughtless and foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is”. (Ephesians 5:15-17 amplified)

Living in the moment engages us with God; we are focused on Him, His plan for our life and what He is doing and we don’t look back so often and have regrets.

Our undivided attention in the moment says we love and care. We have this one moment and then it is gone forever so I encourage you today to practice living in this moment and trust God with all the things that so often scream for your attention and time. Seek to give your life and energy to those people and things that are important, long lasting and life giving and not simply what seems urgent or attractive at the time.

Prayer: Lord help me to embrace the day and to take some time with you. To make moments with those I love and to understand what and who is really important. Help me not to miss those people and experiences that are right in front of me simply because I get too distracted and weighed down with things that don’t really matter. In Jesus Name Amen.



13 Sept – One Word

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One of the main ways I have learnt to trust God and to keep standing even in the face of contrary circumstances is to take hold of His word on the situation I am facing. Just one word from God believed on and spoken forth can and will literally move mountains, silence demons, shrivel up sickness, release provision and bring God on the scene. One word from God can change everything. 

Simon Peter one of the first disciples of Jesus discovered the power of believing and trusting in a word from Jesus. He and his friends had spent all night fishing but had caught nothing and were returning home when Jesus called from the shore, “put out into deep water and let down your nets for a catch again”. Simon was tired, probably annoyed and just wanted to go home to bed, but he chose to stop, listen and receive that one word from Jesus and it paid off.

“When Jesus had finished speaking, He said to Simon, “Put out into deep water and let down your nets for a catch. ”Master, Simon replied, we have worked through the night without catching anything. But because you say so I will let down the nets. When they had done so, they caught such a large number of fish that their nets began to tear.”(Luke 5:4-6)

Just one word from Jesus can change your life. Today I encourage you to spend some time with Him. Get to know Jesus better by reading His Words in the bible and spending time in His presence and around others who know Him too. If you are facing a situation or you are feeling afraid or unsure about the future search out and ask Him to show you the answer in His Word regarding what you need or are facing. God says He is “alert and active watching over his Word to perform it, and that the angels hearken to the word of the Lord” when it is spoken in trust and faith. (Jeremiah 1:12; Psalm 103:20)

Hold onto that one word, ask him to bring revelation and clarity into your situation and then determine to believe and trust in His love and ability to bring it to pass because when Jesus speaks it changes everything!

Prayer: Lord I know that one word has the power to change everything. Please speak to me and help me to trust in your love and faithfulness today. In Jesus name Amen.


12 Sept – More Than Talent

This is a repost from a blog my husband Philip wrote for me. He’s the real deal and has always inspired me to reach for my dreams and to keep seeking to be the best I can be. He practices what he preaches, working full time in the corporate sector as well as being a pastor and ministering to people every weekend and throughout the week. He is also studying full time for his MBA, is an amazingly supportive husband and awesome Dad to our six kids. If I could recommend someone to listen to and take notice of then he’s your man… 

As an executive coach and pastor I have met some very talented and gifted people. Yet the gifted and talented do not always shine. I have seen people with extraordinary talent in certain areas of their lives walk away from using and developing their gift because there was too much work involved. I can recall an extraordinary musician leaving a music school because there was a mix up when they enrolled. I have seen a brilliant mathematician (averaging 97%) leave higher education because it was too much work. I have seen talented sports people leave their sport because they didn’t want to put in the effort to train.

Talent is not the answer to achieving in life. Being gifted is not a guarantee of becoming who you were made to be. Every body has a God given dream inside them. But having a dream and being gifted and talented isn’t enough. We need to understand that there is also a price to pay to be who God made us to be.

To achieve the dream that is inside us takes dedication, sacrifice and commitment. Talent and gifting may get us started, but it is character, commitment and sacrifice that will achieve the goal.

No doubt you will experience setbacks and disappointments because it takes commitment, dedication and sacrifice to fulfil our dreams, especially when it looks like it can’t and won’t happen.

What is your dream? What would you like to achieve? Are you putting in the time and effort to position yourself to achieve it? If the dream is worth it then there is sacrifice involved. It may mean not buying items you want because you are saving for a house. It may mean having to study at night after work to get the job you desire. It may mean getting up earlier in the morning to exercise to become fit and healthy.

Everything has a price. Will you stand out from the crowd and pay the price or will you settle and probably regret it. The choice is ours. No one said it would be easy, but when we achieve the goal, the sacrifice is forgotten, and we get to enjoy the achievement.

Make a decision today. Write down your goal. Work out the next step to achieving it and go for it! Make the commitment, decide you will overcome the setbacks, push forward and attain the prize.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13)

Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win.” (1 Corinthians 9:24)

11 Sept – Intelligence Having Fun


Tonight I’m doing something a little different in that I’m running a creative workshop and teaching people a technique called Paint Pouring. Primarily  because I want to share what I’ve discovered and the fun I’ve found in it.

Albert Einstein once said, “creativity is intelligence having fun”, yet in a world filled with stereotypes we often find ourselves labelling people and in doing so perhaps shutting down our God given ability to create.  It’s as if  people think they are capable of only being one or two things, yet we are multi dimensional creatures and far more capable than we imagine, with gifts and talents we often haven’t even discovered yet.

I believe God’s gift to us is to be creative in some way and I’ve discovered it’s often His way of renewing, restoring and strengthening our lives. Because we are created in the image of God I believe that within each one of us rests creativity far more than we imagine. Some would say the human spirit lives on creativity and dies in conformity and routine.

When we open ourselves to exploring our creativity we open ourselves to God. When we don’t seek to be creative it is counter to our true nature.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them”. (Genesis 1:27)

When we think about being creative its helpful to remember that:
We don’t create for others.
We don’t create to impress or be the best.
We create, because we can.

What if you don’t know what your gift is — what you’re supposed to create? The answer is simple: Just try something!

A great way to unleash our creativity is to make a creativity date.  A time set apart to explore. Creativity is coaxed and not forced from within us, and it helps to give ourselves permission to stop “working” and to take an adventure.

I encourage you today to not get too comfortable in the space you are in. Creative people don’t settle for seeing things for what they are, they choose to see things for what they can be.

We so need to give ourselves space to breathe, flourish and grow. Keep experimenting  and looking at things in a different way, dream, invent and explore until you find something you enjoy, something you love — and then keep doing it. It doesn’t have to be world-class or a work of genius. It doesn’t even have to be “artistic” — because creativity can be found anywhere. It just has to matter to you..

I love this quote by Julie Cameron, “One only need observe the natural world to see that God revels in adventure: cliffs, jungles, waterfalls,  deserts,  mountains, seas. When we take time for discovery we put ourselves in the presence of the Great Adventurer.  As we are outward bound, we sense an inward grace.”

Be blessed as you take some time out this week to connect with your inner adventurer and creative self.

And he has filled him with the Spirit of God, with skill, with intelligence, with knowledge, and with all craftsmanship, to devise artistic designs, to work in gold and silver and bronze” (Exodus 35:30)

For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; (Psalm 139:13-16)

Prayer: Lord would you please help me to make time and space in myself to be creative in whatever form that most suits who you’ve made me to be. In Jesus name Amen.

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