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November 2020

30 Nov – Never Alone

One of the things that many people fear is to be alone in the world. It’s the awful feeling of having no one; of loneliness with no real close family, friends or healthy relationships. Even with the 7.4 billion people who live on earth, people everywhere struggle with loneliness.

Sadly it’s loneliness that often leads people to have relationships that are damaging, or just plain awful. They would rather have unhealthy relationships, than have no one to come home to. Others go from person to person, often having dysfunctional relationships because of the fear of being lonely and unloved.

Loneliness, and the fear of it is a real driving force behind many people’s decisions, and the attitudes they have.

At times loneliness can be caused by transitions in life, such as leaving school or uni, becoming a parent, job changes, moving, and getting older. Other times it can be separation, opposition from others, or feeling rejected.

But there is someone who understands our hearts completely. He knows our thoughts, feels our every emotion, and longs for us to know He is with us, and for us. No matter how many hurdles we face, or what we are going through God promises that He never leaves us alone. He is always calling us to Him, for us to open our hearts to His love and comfort.

Life is going to have times when people let us down, when attacks of sickness or lack can make us feel stretched to our limits. Times when the pressures of life can seem never-ending. Seasons of isolation, or feeling like nobody understands what we are going through. But these moments are also opportunities for us to lean into Jesus, and know that He is there for us. Loneliness can in actual fact be an opportunity to discover intimacy with Him, for He promises, “He will be with us, even to the end of the age”. (Matthew 28:20), and that the Holy Spirit will  be our helper, and will lead us in all truth.

“I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever— the Spirit of truth … I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you” (John 14:16–18).

Today know that God “will never desert you, nor will He ever forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5 NASB) For there is no place where God isn’t. He is everywhere at all times, and we can constantly talk with Him, and let Him talk to us.

He is stronger than our loneliness. He is more powerful than our problems, and He emphatically states that “we can do all things through Him who strengthens us.” (Philippians 4:13 NASB)

Prayer: Lord thank you that I am never alone, for you stand with me. Help me to know and recognise that your presence is all around me, in the very air that I breathe. In Jesus Name. Amen.

29th Nov – God Whispers

God whispers because he is close.

When we say, “I really felt to do something or I was drawn to such and such or I just knew”, it usually means we received an inner prompting or leading – almost like a whisper on the inside.

This is especially the case when we make a decision to ask Jesus into our life. The Holy Spirit comes to abide with us, and as a result we increase in our experience of these inner promptings or God whispers. It’s because Jesus said He would lead and guide us in the way to go and not leave us to live simply by our own understanding. That means we will be moved, led and compelled by the Holy Spirit and internally prompted as He guides us. (Mark 1:12; Matt 4:1; Acts 13:2; Romans 8:14)

It’s actually quite an amazing and liberating revelation to understand that we no longer have to know and figure everything out all by ourselves. God is right there with us wanting to bring heavenly wisdom and insight into every relationship, circumstance and situation. He will lead us everyday by gentle promptings, a quiet whisper, a peace, knowing, specific word or direction through our circumstances. We especially will recognise these God whispers when we are listening and ready to move in obedience.

When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future.He will bring me glory by telling you whatever he receives from me. All that belongs to the Father is mine; this is why I said, ‘The Spirit will tell you whatever he receives from me.” (John 16:13-15 NLT)

I’ve discovered that God is very interested in both the big picture as well as the minute details of my life. I can be out shopping and I’ll gently hear Him whisper or feel internally prompted to buy more toilet paper or milk. That may sound mundane but God knows running out of toilet paper or some other necessity is going to increase my running around, and therefore my stress levels if it happens late at night or when there is a house full of people. So because He loves me He gives me a inner nudge to buy these things while I’m out. Time and time again I’ve experienced this, and also the regret when I missed listening and acting. As I regularly tell my kids, “it’s wisdom to learn to listen and to not ignore a whisper from God; make it your habit to obey, for it will keep you from a whole lot of trouble and might even save your life one day.” 

A good way to know if it is God speaking in a particular area is to test if it agrees with His Word and also leads to good things. It it does then it’s likely a leading from God. Start with the little things in your day (likeshopping of finding a carpark) and begin to see how God leads you. When it’s a prompting which will lead to bigger decsions if you are still unsure seek Godly mature counsel, pray and especially don’t rush making any big decisions.

Today practice being more aware of God whispers and promptings in your day. It will undoubtedly make your life far less complicated, less stressful and you will move more confidently as you find heavenly guidance in what, where and when to do things. Plus you’ll increasingly discover how you can trust God to lead you in the bigger things of your life too.

Life is so much better when we listen to God whispering to us in our day, so “tune” your inner ear to Him knowing that God whispers because He is close.

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.” (Psalm 32:8 NIV)

Prayer. Lord thank you that you promise that you will lead and guide me. Please help me to be more and more sensitive to your leading as I go throughout my day. In Jesus name amen

28 Nov – Look At Who, Not How

When David slayed Goliath he wasn’t focused on the How, he was focused on the Who. He remembered both who He was and who was with him as he took his slingshot, flung that rock and knocked the giant to the ground. David may have looked small, inexperienced and totally out of his depth, but he knew who he belonged to and the favour that was on his life as a result of his relationship with God. (1 Samuel 17)

Like David, when we shift our perspective off the how’s in our life and look instead to who is with us and who God says we are, we will slay giants much bigger than we are and become more than we ever imagined. (Ephesians 3:20)

Who we are is more powerful than any other force trying to stop us. We belong to the creator of the universe and no giant, no sickness, no pandemic, financial crisis or other people’s opinion is any match for God and who He says we are. He has the how’s all worked out and will equip and empower us for everything He directs us to do and become.

As a result we can start living from a place of faith, confidence and expectation. We don’t have to have the biggest resources, education, connections or even the most talent to succeed and overcome. When we look to God and recognise who He is and who we are He takes what we have and puts his favour and blessing on it.

David didn’t focus on the how’s when he faced the giant – He focused only on his who as he ran into victory. In doing so he stepped into his calling and destiny as the next King.

Today stop worrying about all the How’s in your life – God’s got them covered. Instead trust and find rest in your Who, and start living the life you were made for.

Thus says the Lord, the King of Israel and his Redeemer, the Lord of hosts: “I am the first and I am the last; besides me there is no god.” (Isaiah 44:6 ESV)

The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.” (Zephaniah 3:17 ESV)

“Do not fear. I have redeemed you. I have summoned you. You are mine.” (Isaiah 43:1).

“Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9).

Prayer: Lord I’m choosing to take my eyes off all the how’s in my life and to focus on who you are and who you have made me. I am fully able to do all things in you. In Jesus name Amen

27 Nov – Just Jesus

We can become so focused on what we think others need to do or say that we start to believe we’re not able to make any changes or take action unless other people do.

Essentially we can allow our lives and futures to be highjacked by the attitudes and actions of others rather than depending on what Jesus says and our response to Him.

Jesus illustrated the power of not allowing our lives to become too dependant upon what others say and do in his encounter with a man who had been unable to walk for over thirty eight years. The man believed that he needed the help of other people to assist him in being healed and getting into the pools of Bethseda. A supernatural event would regularly take place where an angel would stir the pool and those who got into the water while it was moving would be healed. Unfortunately the crippled man was never able to reach the water in time as no one would assist him.

When Jesus came and asked the man if he wanted to be healed he didn’t reply, “Yes of course.” Instead he gave an excuse as to why he couldn’t. The man was so focused on others and what he needed them to do for him, that he nearly didn’t see what Jesus was offering him.

Fortunately Jesus redirected the crippled man’s attention off people and circumstances and drew his attention onto Him – the one who has all the answers. Jesus said, “Pick up your mat and walk” and at once the man did and was cured. (John 5:9)

No one except Jesus and the paralyzed man were involved. No angel, no pool and no helpers. Just Jesus and the man.

Our healing, freedom and abundance in life are not to be dependant upon other’s. Yes at times other people are called to help and walk with us, that’s a huge blessing. But we aren’t to be solely dependant on someone else praying for us to experience healing, or people providing for our physical and financial needs to be blessed. We aren’t to be dependent on receiving an apology or even visibly seeing the consequences for other people’s bad behaviour before we can forgive, or have our offer of forgiveness received before we can walk in freedom and healing.

The choice is ours, not other peoples.

Today ask yourself, “Are you content to be held hostage by the decisions and behaviour of others, or will you look to Jesus like the paralyzed man did, and in doing so receive all He has promised for your life. Focus upon Jesus and make your move!

“God has made you complete in Christ. Christ is in charge of every ruler and authority.” (Colossians 2:10,

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday.” (Psalm 37:4-6)

“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” (Matthew 6:33 NLT)

“And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others”. (2 Cor 9:8 NLT)

Prayer: Lord thank you that I don’t have to depend on anyone or anything else but you to be made whole. I am complete in you and everything and everyone else is a blessing and a bonus. Please help me to focus on you today for all I desire and need. In Jesus name Amen

26 Nov – Know Who you Are

The world does not need more of the same! People actually need us to be different. That’s what Jesus did. He was known for being nothing like people had ever been seen or heard before. On healing the paralytic Jesus told him, to “Arise, take up your bed, and go to your house. Immediately he arose, took up the bed, and went out in the presence of them all, so that all were amazed and glorified God, saying, “We never saw anything like this!”

When was the last time someone said to you, “I’ve never seen anything like that?” Because to be relevant and powerful in the world around us we are going to have to be revealed for who and what we are, and not merely try to fit in or go under the radar of public opinion.

People are not looking for the same in us if we profess to know and be a follower of Jesus. They are hoping that we will be different! That we will love when everyone fails to and have the answers when they don’t. That we will hear God’s voice where they can’t recognise Him speaking, and that we will release and live in the realms of the supernatural where they don’t know how to.

To walk in that reality of being different and yet also be relevant to the needs and searching of those around us, we must realise more fully who we are, where we come from, and daily have this truth revealed in and through our lives. 

We are new creations – born from heaven, and to say or believe anything else would be a lie.

“So from now on we regard no one according to the flesh. Although we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come! (2 Corinthians 5:16-17)

Today spend some time with Jesus, look into His word and see who you are in Him and then go out and live that way. Jesus was and still is radical and for us to follow in His footsteps we’re going to have to choose to be as He is – supernatural, unearthly, a little weird and definitely not the same as the world around us!

Prayer: Lord I don’t want to be the same as the world around me, when my identity in you means that I am a new creation and capable of far more than the world tries to confine and dictate to me. Help me to walk more fully in the reality of who I am in you today. In Jesus name Amen.

25 Nov – Being Real And Honest

I ate some salad today which I’d grown myself, but as began to eat I realised I was out of salad dressing and as a result I had to eat it without dressing. Which is when I discovered something…. I didn’t like the lettuce that I have planted, watered and even prayed over. I’d never noticed before because I’ve always put dressing all over this particular type of lettuce, but on having to eat the raw food I found out I really really don’t like it.

My salad today made me think that we often do exactly the same thing in other areas of our lives too. Whether it be our job, relationships, church community, places we live or any other circumstances we find ourselves in. We can very easily avoid seeing the truth or what is the raw material in our lives because we’ve been busy dressing up everything to make it palatable or the way we want it to look. However when we are honest and strip things back some of what we’ve been surrounding ourselves with and consuming isn’t actually real, can be quite toxic to us and not beneficial to to help us become all God desires us to be. We’ve just been dressing life up to make it seem okay.

I’m not saying we should suddenly cut off all our relationships, quit our jobs or leave our church, but perhaps all the energy we spend “dressing up” our lives to try and make them less distasteful and draining to us would be better spent putting our effort into finding out and being who God has made us to be, seeking Him more, cultivating healthy relationships and choosing to walk in the purpose He has destined for us.

Today I discovered that even though I’ve spent time, money and energy on growing rows of lettuces, I actually don’t like that type of lettuce… and that’s okay. I don’t like bitter, and prefer the type growing along side it. Now that I know that about myself I just won’t grow that type of lettuce again, and I’ll save on salad dressing.

In the same way we are all created and called by God to be who He has made me to be. Yes we are to be open to change where God is working and molding us to be the best version of ourselves. But let’s be real in the journey and not ignore, hide from, or dress things up all the time to make them palatable and bearable in our lives when they are not as they should be or don’t belong in our lives.

Today I encourage you to take an honest look at your life. Is God trying to point out some things to you that you haven’t wanted to see about your life and behaviour, or the people and circumstances around you? Allow Him to speak to you today so He can move whatever is needed so He can then bring blessing and purpose into every area of your life.

Prayer: Lord thank you that you desire for me to be real and honest about who I am and the relationships, calling and purpose on my life. Please help me to see people and situations for what and who they really are, and to have wisdom to know what should remain and what I have simply being dressing up to convince myself it should be in my life. In Jesus name Amen.

24 Nov – How To Pray

Prayer is the legal right to ask God to supernaturally intervene on our behalf. “We can stand in God’s presence without fear, without a sense of inferiority, without a sense of guilt, because of all that Jesus has done for us. It is our legal right to come boldly before God to request heavenly intervention in this earth on our behalf.” (Charles Capps)

God doesn’t want us to tell Him the problem; He wants us to seek Him and then ask for the solution. He already knows our problems and what we need before we even ask Him. (Matthew 6:7-8) God wants us to learn to pray with authority, by lining ourselves up with what He has already spoken in His Word so we will release by faith His ability into every situation and circumstance.

I’ve learnt that there is no point reinforcing the problem we are facing by talking over and over about it. Instead we are encouraged to go to God’s word and find out what He says about our situation so that we can then pray as we put a demand upon what God has promised

A prayer accurately formed and stated from the Word of God will absolutely move heaven and earth, and the things under the earth on our behalf.” (C.Capps)

Let’s not keep telling God and everyone else our problems, when we can far better use our time to ask God for His wisdom and search out His word for the solution. Whatever it is; whether it is physical, financial, your relationships, a need for healing or direction for your future, determine to go to God and His word. Don’t rush it, but search to know His will, so you can pray with faith and boldness, basing your prayer accurately on what He has spoken and promised.

If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” (Matthew 21:22)

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Philippians 4:6)

Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16)

Prayer: Lord please help me to have understanding and wisdom as I spend time in your presence and reading your Word, so that I can know what your will is for every situation I face. Thank you that prayer is my key to have you supernaturally intervene on my behalf. In Jesus Name Amen.

23 Nov – How To Fail Up

I have discovered something important from so-called failures – they can actually be the making of us and why I choose to call them “Failing Up”.

The seasons where I have been most confused or have hurt the most are also the occasions where God has caused me to step up into another place, opportunity and deeper connection with Him.

I’ve learnt in those seasons where it looks like I’ve experienced a setback or failure to keep moving forward and to be really honest, open and vulnerable to God. In my so called failures I’ve been faced with a choice to either give up in defeat or to choose to lean not simply on my strength and wisdom, but on God’s. It’s how we ‘fail up” – we may have failed in our strength and ability, but in doing so we get the chance to step up into a new realm of possibilities with Jesus where His grace is sufficient for us, for His power is made perfect in weakness.” For when we are weak, then we are made strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

Today I want to encourage all those who feel they are or have failed. For those who have studied and then realised they don’t want to do the job they’ve trained for. For those who’ve stepped out and did something and it didn’t work out as planned. For those who put it all on the line and believed for great things and then achieved little, and for those who have a dream and it hasn’t come to pass yet – my advice would be, “Don’t give up, Fail Up”.

For sometimes our so called failures are in fact God rescuing us from ourselves and our choices. Or perhaps even though things might not have worked out as we initially planned, we now know how to do new things. We’ve overcome a fear or inadequacy and increased our skills, which is never a bad thing, and in God’s hands won’t be wasted.

Other times we quite simply have to make a choice; do we allow our so called failures to limit us and be the stick we use to beat ourselves up over, or do we take our disappointments to God and trust Him to make something good out of them, just as He has promised, so we can dust ourselves off and get back out there again.

“And we know that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

Today I recommend the latter and for you to take what you have learnt, achieved, believed for, studied and worked at to Jesus and ask Him to show you what to do next. Go up not down. Look heavenward rather than back and determine to focus upon the next stage in your journey, being newly equipped with what you have learnt from your experiences as you lean into Jesus and Fail Up!

Prayer: Lord thank you that the things that we think could break us in actual fact in your loving hands can be the making of us. Help me to trust you today to take my life and to do something amazing with it. I choose to “fail up” into you today. In Jesus Name Amen.

22 Nov – Facing The Unknown

One thing most of us struggle with is the unknown’s in life. The uncertainty of what’s ahead or knowing completely how everything is going to play out in our life.

It’s these unknown’s in our journey that can really stress us out and undermine our confidence, cause us to get stuck or to become fearful.

Abram (later to be renamed Abraham) in the bible faced many such unknown’s when God told him to “Leave his people and his father’s household and go to the land God would show him. God said He would make him a great nation and would bless him and make his name great. “I will make your name great and you will be a blessing.” (Genesis 12:1-7)

So Abram left, as the Lord had told him, taking with him his nephew Lot, his wife Sarai and all the possessions they had accumulated.

The amazing thing about Abram is that until God spoke to him that day Abram had not known God at all; He had been a sun worshipper until God revealed himself. Yet as Abram responded to God he suddenly went from not knowing God at all to to someone who boldly and confidently started following Him. In doing so he also became a prosperous nation and greatly blessed in the land God brought him to.

God still wants to make Himself known to us; to bring revelation and understanding of who He is, what He has provided for us and His plans for the future. Abram had to leave behind comfortability, familiarity and his past and step into an unknown territory to take hold of the promises of God. Likewise we too are asked to trust and follow God’s leading and directives even when we are not sure where we are going or what may happen – that’s what faith is and why Abram is called the Father of Faith. Because faith trusts in God’s goodness, faithfulness and hand to guide us even in the unknown’s.

Paul in the bible prayed a prayer I pray often in that we would have the spirit of revelation and wisdom in the knowledge of God and the hope of our calling. That the eyes of our understanding would be enlightened (Ephesians 1:17) As a result of this knowing we can walk in confidence, having a new boldness and hope to step out in trust and faith even when we face the”unknown’s” in our life. Just as God spoke and revealed the path ahead for Abram to walk in, He will always illuminate our hearts and the way forward enough for us to take our next step.

Whatever unknown’s you may be facing right now I encourage you to firstly consider what you do know about God and his nature as a starting point for your faith. What new facet of Himself might He be wanting to reveal to you as you step out and trust in Him.

For it is often in the unknown’s, where we simply have to trust in God’s character and goodness that we come to know Him in a new and deeper way. Our unknown’s become the perfect vehicle for knowing Him more.

Today as you face any unknown’s in your life I pray that you would be reminded of all that you know of God already. May He increasingly enlighten your heart and the eyes of your understanding as you step out in faith and follow after Him. (Ephesians 1:17-18)

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