Dayle's Blog


November 2020

21 Nov – What To Do When Things Aren’t Going Well

When things aren’t going well, you feel attacked and repeated negative things are occuring in our life it’s a good idea to stop and check what may be is going on behind the scenes, rather than accepting less than God’s best.

There are often forces at work we may not be fully aware of and at times we are not exercising our spiritual power as God intended. As a result we grow discouraged and wonder what we have done wrong and where is God in our circumstances.

Jesus is always present with us and will never leave us, but He also wants us to walk in the authority that is ours. He used the phrase “binding the strong man” to describe dealing with spiritual forces that come against us. When you bind someone you are essentially limiting their influence and threat and rendering them powerless.

We are not victims but overcomers for, “greater is He that is within us than He who is in the world. No weapon formed against us will prosper and all those who rise up against us will fall.” God says, “resist the devil and He will flee from you”, but we will have to resist and not just sit back and throw our hands up in despair and defeat. (1 John 4:4; Isaiah 54:17; James 4:7)

When things aren’t going well or as they should in our lives the best thing we can do is stop, pray and ask God to reveal the source so we can then deal with the cause accordingly.

  1. Check your heart and attitudes. Deal with any unforgiveness, strife and hurt so that the enemy has no place to gain a foothold in your life. Jesus bore it all for us and His work on the Cross covers every part of our lives.

2. Ask God to reveal if there are any spiritual forces or a demonic strongman behind what is going on in your life or in the lives of those around you. “The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.” (2 Cor 10:4)

3. Bind the strongman and any other demonic forces at work in the name of Jesus and declare God’s promises and protection over your life as you determine to walk in all that God says is yours.

How can anyone enter a strong man’s house and steal his possessions, unless he first ties up the strong man? Then he can plunder his house.

Jesus said He gave us “authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy” (Luke 10:19). Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven” (Matthew 12:29; 18:18)

Jesus has given us authority and the weapons of warfare to bind and loose whatever is necessary for us to experience breakthrough and to take hold of the inheritance that God says is ours as a member of His family.

Today don’t settle for less than God’s best in your life. Bind the strong man and start walking in the authority, presence and power that rightfully belongs to you.

He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all–how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” (Romans 8:32)

Indeed, this is what the LORD says: “Even the captives of the mighty will be taken away, and the plunder of a tyrant will be retrieved; I will contend with those who contend with you, and I will save your children.” (Isaiah 49:25)

Prayer: Lord please reveal to me any area of my life I need to step up in and take authority over. Thank you that I have all I need in you to walk in victory. In Jesus name Amen.

20 Nov – How To Activate Your Faith

Over the last few days I have been remembering back to before we had our eldest daughter. I had just suffered a miscarriage and was feeling confused, hurt and wondering what God was doing. One day my Mum came to visit and invited me to go shopping, and while out we passed the baby section where she encouraged me to go and look at the baby clothes, which to many would have seemed a strange thing to do as I had just lost a baby. But my Mum knew something about how faith and hope work, which is that we must keep hope alive because it helps activate our faith to believe God. I returned home from that shopping trip with a tiny pair of pink fluffy baby booties, which over the weeks that followed I would regularly take out, hold and visualise on tiny little baby feet. Not long afterwards I fell pregnant and nine months later I was able to place those pink booties on our healthy, beautiful, baby girl Anna.

The principal I learnt through that time was that when we are praying and believing for what we sense God is speaking to us we often have to activate something in the natural realm to bring these promises and Words from God to pass in our lives. The simple act of buying baby booties was a statement of belief that I was going to have a baby; it was a natural act, which was placing me in agreement with what God had said.

We see this countless times in the bible. Jesus called to Peter to come and walk on the water. He spoke and said “Come walk out on the water – a supernatural thing, but Peter had to do the very natural act of stepping out of the boat to cause the supernatural to impact his life. The lame man who was lowered through the roof had to do a natural act in response to Jesus’ words of “pick up your mat and walk”, of obeying and picking up his mat and walking. Without his act of faith to respond there would have been no activation of faith and therefore no miracle. (Matthew 14:22-31;John 5:8-9)

Today if you believe you have heard from God, I encourage you to ask how does He want you to respond to the Word He has spoken to you. What act of faith does He want you to take to release to hasten the supernatural into your life and situation? Then as He prompts you just do it, and then keep speaking and standing on His promises as you watch God’s answer unfold.

Prayer: Lord I thank you that nothing is impossible for you and that all you ask is that we trust in you and your goodness. Please help me to put wheels on my faith and to not just speak your promises but also to act where and when you lead me. In Jesus name Amen.

19 Nov – Defining You

If you just met someone and they said, “Tell me about yourself.” What would you say? What would you tell them defines you as a person and matters to you the most?

There are the big events in our lives that are defining moments such as graduating and gaining our degree, our first real job, falling in love, getting married, a successful business deal, the birth of our children, the death of someone close to us, memorable trips, finding success and experiencing failure. The list goes on. These moments are often what we share with others and what we use to define ourselves to others.

But what exactly defines us to ourselves?

From a very young age we dress and act a certain way, play sport or perhaps pursue an artistic hobby. We constantly long for our defining moments to be something lasting and our existence to be remembered and to matter. As a result we go through life trying to get to these big defining moments and they are often the driving force behind our decisions and actions. Yet in the process we can forget that it is the journey and experiences we travel through that God uses to shape and define us the most. He is in the midst of all our moments and He desires to speak and share with us who He has created us to be.

When we choose to invite Jesus into our life there is one thing that is paramount to our relationship and identity. It is that we find ourselves and who we are in what Jesus says about us above anything else. His words and truth are to be what sets the scene for the rest of our lives, for it’s in belonging to Him and His family that helps us become the best version of ourselves.

Today who do you say you are? What experiences and words have you permitted to shape you into the person you have become, and whose voice are you allowing to define you? Because God, the who created you, wants to be the loudest voice and the one who defines you the most.

Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” (John 1:12)

Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old man has passed away, behold the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellences of him who called you out of darkness into his marvellous light.“(1 Peter 2:9)

Prayer: Lord thank you that I am a new creation in you and that I can discover who I am and my purpose through knowing you. Please help me to be defined only by what you say about me rather than the voices of the world around me or my past. In Jesus Name Amen.

18 Nov – Hold On

When our second daughter was a little girl she was covered with chronic eczema.  She had regular hospital and specialist appointments and would often have infections all over her body. Several times a day we would have to bath her in special medicated lotions, then cover her from head to toe in ointments and moisturizer. After soaking bandages in warm water we would then have to wrap her up like a mummy, finally putting on top of those wet bandages (called wet dressings) a set of dry clothes. She would have to stay in this state for close to an hour.

We chose to do this process 4 times a day instead of her having to be hospitalised, and there were many days I fought back tears as I carefully applied ointments to her infected, sore little body.

It was in those years that I learnt to hold onto God’s promises. I learnt that to survive and win you can’t look at external circumstances or suffering, but only at the promises in God’s word. I had to decide to hold onto what God said about our daughter and stand on that.

We also taught her God’s promises; we prayed, spoke what God said, and refused to give up. I  would tell her, “find a spot without eczema no matter how small; that beautiful clear smooth skin is what you are going to have all over you.” I would speak over her, “people are going to look at you and say “look what beautiful skin you have”. I was speaking those things that are not, as though they are.

“Abraham acted in faith when he stood in the presence of God, who gives life to the dead and calls into existence things that don’t yet exist.” (Romans 4:17)

In the natural it seemed ridiculous but I was looking through the eyes of faith and God’s promises.

Our daughter is 25 now and you would never know except for two small scars on her arm what she went through as a child. It’s 15 years since she was discharged from the hospital as an outpatient and I remember the day she was discharged and her specialist who had cared for her all those years standing back with tears in her eyes and saying, “just look at you”, “look how beautiful you are and how clear and smooth your skin is”.

Yes I agreed quietly to myself, God is so faithful and we can hold onto His promises!

There are times in life when in the midst of the battle our circumstances will not look like they are lining up or at all what we had planned. We can be left with more questions than answers and feel confused and disappointed. However it is really important in this space to acknowledge that we don’t know everything and to seek God for His wisdom and the next steps to take on our journey. I’ve learnt that setbacks are temporary and that even though we may lose ground in a skirmish we are not going to lose the war.

Today I encourage you to hold on. You may be facing temporary setbacks or even “faith hits’ but this is not the end. Reach out to Jesus, lay hold of His promises, dust yourself off if need be, but don’t concede defeat. It may look impossible, but look again through the eyes of faith and God’s promises and see and speak your breakthrough!

Prayer: Lord I hold onto your promises. I thank you that you are faithful to your word, and even if I have temporary setbacks I will not be defeated. I believe what you say about my circumstances – I win. In Jesus name amen.

17 Nov – How To Look For The Positive

Goodness and favour surround us and when we start seeking out and looking there is evidence of God’s goodness towards us everywhere. Even when it seems that no good can come of a situation, God if we seek Him will surprise us by revealing just how He has been working behind the scenes on our behalf and with our best in mind.

It however does take practice and a renewed mindset to begin to look for the good, rather than to focus upon the negative. Some people may think that’s just “putting your head in the sand” and not facing facts, but when we know God and what He promises then any contrary circumstances must line up with the truth of His Word.

A key to being more positive and to see the good is to begin to retrain yourself to focus and expect to see God’s favour and goodness towards you everyday.

Some other helpful ways to look for the good are:

1. Keep your eyes and ears on God’s Word to build your faith and expectation for God’s favour and blessings to be poured into your life.

So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God” (Romans 10:17)

2. Give God your cares and concerns and then leave them with Him. It’s hard to see the good when you are weighed down with burdens and worries.

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

3. Spend time talking to God in prayer and then declaring what He says about your life, rather than focusing and repeating the negatives or what others say about you.

And I will do whatever you ask in My name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.” (John 14: 13-14)

4. Honour even the smallest good and positive thing in your life. Don’t take God’s blessings for granted.

Give the Lord the glory due His name; worship the Lord in the splendour of [His] holiness.” (Psalm 29:2)

Honour the LORD from your wealth and from the first of all your produce.” (Proverbs 10:9)

5. Look for the “silver lining” in situations and remember that God has promised that all things work together for good for those who love Him. Somewhere, somehow good will come.

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28)

Today even if it is only a tiny sliver of joy and goodness that you can see choose to acknowledge and honour God for it. As you do you’ll start to see goodness all around you as you train your eyes, heart and mind to focus on the positives and to expect God’s daily favour to be made evident in your life.

“Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” (Psalm 23:6)

“He loves righteousness and justice; the earth is full of the goodness of the Lord. ” (Psalm 33:5)

Oh, how great is Your goodness, which You have laid up for those who fear You, which You have prepared for those who trust in You in the presence of the sons of men! You shall hide them in the secret place of Your presence from the plots of man; You shall keep them secretly in a pavilion from the strife of tongues. (Psalm 31:19-20)

Prayer: Thank you Lord for your help to retrain my eyes, heart and mind to see all the good. Please help me to grow to easily be able to see the positives so that it becomes an everyday expectation to daily experience your favour and goodness being revealed in my life. In Jesus name Amen.

16 Nov – Enjoy Your Life

Sometimes I think we get so used to our lives being busy or full of hard work we don”t expect or seek after the fact that God wants anything else for us.

We can easily get stuck in the grind and forget that God actually wants us to enjoy life too. Yes we have a purpose, which will require discipline and persistence to fulfill, but in the midst of all our doings God still desires we have fun. That He loves and has ordained for us to take holidays, have other interests, great relationships and to enjoy our down time too. To essentially know what and who prospers our soul so that we can live life to the fullest. (John 10:10)

An example of actively seeking to enjoy the life God has blessed us with is how my day panned out. This morning I woke up and wondered what we should do for the day. We’d spent the night away in one of our favourite holiday spots and were planning on heading home this morning. However on waking up I had a feeling Jesus had other ideas so I took a moment to pray and ask His plan and if we should stay another day. Jesus spoke right back to my heart, “Of course. “Of course stay and have a day with your family relaxing by the beach and taking some time out before the busyness of the next few months.” ” Of course… I want you to enjoy your life.”

The simple fact is regardless of where or who we are God desires to fill our lives with good things. Even though that will mean different things for different people it’s still one of Gods promises and in his character that He seeks to satisfy our lives and crown us with his loving kindness and mercy.

The years go by really, really fast and God wants them to be lavishly filled with good things, people and experiences if we will allow Him to lead us. We can and probably will be able to get to our destination and complete our purpose with few breaks and having limited fun, or we can travel through life in peace, joy, fulfillment, Gods presence and having a great time.

Today look for God and what he is doing. Include him in your day and decisions, and seek His wisdom and advice on the best way to live, because as you do he promises to show you how to live freely, lightly and to keep your joy.

Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” (Matt 11:28-30)

He (God), “Who redeems your life from the pit,
Who crowns you [lavishly] with lovingkindness and tender mercy;
Who satisfies your years with good things,
So that your youth is renewed like the [soaring] eagle
.” (Psalm 103:4-5)

Prayer: Lord thank you for fullness of life in you and that you show me how to live freely and lightly today. In Jesus name

15 Nov – How To Be More Positive

I recently blogged about lifting our lids and seeking to be the very best version of ourselves. As a result of that thought I’ve been praying and asking God where my lids are that prevent me being all that He’s made me to be. Jesus is honest with me and I heard from Him that I had a lid of negativity. Ouch.

However negativity comes from somewhere and always will have a root and I know negativity in my life stems from often allowing myself to get worried, fearful, and expectant of bad things happening. Instead of challenging negative thoughts and situations I’ve accepted them.

Being a positive person is about having a positive mind set and belief system. It’s not about being happy all the time, but how we choose to “see” and process the things that go on in our life and the world around us.

Researches have discovered choosing to be more positive has some definite benefits such as: Increased life span, lower rates of depression, lower levels of distress, greater resistance to the common cold, better psychological and physical well-being, reduced risk of death through cardiovascular disease, and better coping skills during hardships and times of stress

Having a positive mindset doesn’t mean that we keep our head in the sand and ignore life’s less pleasant situations but if we are to live the life God desires it does mean learning to manage how we think and believe.

One of the great things I have learnt, is that when we know Jesus and have invited Him to lead our life, He says we receive from Him and his way of thinking – “we have the mind of Christ”. That means we have access to the thoughts, wisdom and the understanding of God. We actually have all the positivity we need because love is positive and God is love.

This week God spoke to me and reminded me that He wants us to enjoy life and to be who we are called to be. To do that it’s also important to focus on the beautiful around us, for He is there in the midst of that”.

I’ve discovered that as long as we stay connected and abiding in Jesus, His positivity and joy will flow into every area of our hearts and minds, renewing us day by day.

Our self talk – the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through our minds starts to change as we choose to listen to what God says about us in His word – that’s why its good to read it every day! Without His positivity feeding our thoughts we can entertain self-talk that is full of misconceptions we create through lack of information, our fears, what we watch and listen to and our past.

We may want to step out and do something new or face a challenge, but suddenly we start thinking negativily and feel defeated before we’ve even begun. However that moment is an opportunity to ask God to help us change from a negative mindset to a positive one. To change our phrasing and thinking to what God says, which is always breakthrough, wisdom and strategy to overcome and win in life.

Today instead of talking and allowing unchecked thoughts of negativity and fear to dominate, make it a habit to focus on the beautiful around you everyday and that which makes you feel happy. Seek Jesus and His way of thinking, and as you read the bible start to take God’s Word and make it the basis of your positive self talk – “God’s” talk about your day,

For, who has known the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.” (1 Corinthians 2:16)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths”. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10)

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God”. (Romans 12:2 NKJV)

Prayer: Lord I choose to talk how you talk today, and to fill my mind with positivity and life giving thoughts. Thank you that you love me so much, and have good things in store for me. In Jesus Name. Amen.

14 Nov – Don’t You Quit

Many people know what it is to be tired and fatigued at some point in their lives.

The truth is most things worth doing are going to push and stretch us out of our comfort zones. They’re things which at some stage will often make us feel weary and even tempt us to want to quit. This weariness is especially prevalent when it looks like we might or have failed.

But perhaps as Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.” Failure is not the end of the world and any mistakes we make are proof that we are trying and hopefully learning along the way. For isn’t it better to at least try something, than never try at all.

I’ve had my share of failures, weariness, and feeling like I might quit. From feeling like I could have done better with our kids, other relationships, leadership and just life in general. But I’ve also learnt some keys on how to keep going, get back up from a disappointment and not quit! Some keys to avoid quitting are to:

1. Learn to rest, not to quit. Seek balance – work hard, but remember to have fun, rest, recharge and prosper your soul. Which means discovering what brings us joy, rest and refreshing. Downtime is vital so we must make ourselves take some. Jesus set this example for us when He encourages His disciples to come away from the needy crowds so they could all rest awhile. (Mark 6:31)

2. Stop looking at the problems. Jesus said there would be problems, but He also said He has overcome them. Don’t keep looking at the problems, or what everyone else is doing or saying – look at Jesus and believe Him! “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

3. Stand firm –be resolute, tenacious and choose to act and think upon who God says you are and what you are capable of in Him. Sometimes we just have to dig deep into who we are and God’s strength in us, and stand firm!

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” ((Philippians 4:13),

If God is for us who can be against us.” (Romans 8:31)

Put on the full armour of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.” (Ephesians 6:11)

4. Choose your words – Having six babies I know what it is to be so tired I felt physically ill. I’d say, “I’m so tired” all the time. But then God started to tell me to stop saying that and to instead speak positive, energising words. It worked! I’ve learnt to speak only what He said about my body, my situation, my future, family, nation, and His plan for my life. “He says, “Let the weak say they are strong” (Joel 3:10). Our bodies listen to what we say, and all of creation responds to faith filled words. Learn to speak the promises in God’s word because “He is watching over his word to perform it! (Jeremiah 1:12)

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Proverbs 18:21)

Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” (Proverbs 13:3)

5. Choose friends well – when fighting weariness it helps to have friends who will be there alongside us; who will listen, be willing to reach out to help, pray with faith, encourage, inspire and spur us on so that we will not give up! “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour,for if they fall, one will lift up his companion.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

God is faithful and promises to give strength to the weary and to help us keep going, so that will will in due time reap a harvest.

“He gives strength to the weary, And to him who lacks might He increases power. Though youths grow weary and tired, and vigorous young men stumble badly, those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.”(Isaiah 40:20-30)

Feeling weary or a failure today? Learn from your mistakes, take a rest and prosper your soul, turn to Jesus for strength and help and just keep going and don’t you quit!

“Let’s do it…. Let’s keep a firm grip on the promises that keep us going. God always keeps His Word. Let’s see how inventive we can be in encouraging love and helping out, not avoiding worshipping together as some do but spurring each other on, especially as we see the day approaching.” (Hebrews 10:23-25 The Message Bible)

13 Nov – How To Start

There is a property down the road from us which has a large new home on it. What started out as a tiny little house on a 5-acre block that regularly resembled a swamp in wintertime, now has a large expansive home with a raised block, impressive entrance, a sealed driveway and grassy paddocks. Someone had a vision and desire and then dared to start building their dream property.

Life is like that house. We have thoughts, desires and dreams, but to see them come to pass we will have start somewhere. To take what we have and begin.

There’s something quietly powerful about starting. Activity breeds more activity. The new house down the road was built on what was swampy land, until a decision was made and truckloads of clean soil was brought in to construct a higher and more solid foundation for the new house to be built upon. Beginning the new build was laborious, messy and time consuming as truckload after truckload of soil was dumped on the block.

Every accomplishment starts with the decision to begin and to simply try. The expert in anything was once a beginner and our first steps often look like messy, wobbly “baby steps.” But the important thing to realise is that we don’t have to be great to start, we just have to start!

Some helpful tips to starting is to:

1. Think about and write down the steps you need to take to start so you can determine and plan a way forward. Break these steps into manageable actions so you don’t get stuck floundering with a dream that’s too big for you to grasp hold of.

2. Let go of past regret – If we hesitate to begin something new long enough we can fall into the trap of feeling like it’s simply too late to get started. Don’t get stuck in regret. Forgive yourself for any past mistakes and procrastinating. Studies reveal that forgiving ourselves for mistakes and procrastination is an essential step in effecting motivational change.

3. Ask God to clarify what’s in your heart and for Him to help you start. He gives strategies, strength and the power to make things happen.

Starting can often be the hardest part, but God says that He will empower and enable us to run our race, reach our goals and fulfil our dreams. He actually says He will work in us to accomplish far more than we can think, dream, ask or imagine when we are connected to Him. (Ephesians 3:20)

Do you have a dream or desire in your heart today? Write it down, ask God to clarify and empower you, forgive yourself for the past, pray often and then get going and start!

“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth does not become weary or tired. His understanding is inscrutable. He gives strength to the weary, and to him who lacks might He increases power. Though youths grow weary and tired, and vigorous young men stumble badly, yet those who wait for the Lord will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles. They will run and not get tired. They will walk and not become weary.” (Isaiah 40:28-31)

Prayer: Lord please help me to start something today. I choose to let go of procrastination and the past, to make a plan and to start. In Jesus name amen.

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