We’re not made to live in contention and strife, and medically, emotionally and spiritually, it damages our health, relationships, and the essence of who we are.

Most living things like sweet substances and peaceful environments, and as the old saying goes, “you can catch more bees with honey than with vinegar”. In other words, we can attract, impact and have a significant affect on people and the world around us when we choose to be agreeable, kind and not always on the defensive and ready for a fight.

The bible has some wisdom on how to handle strife and disputes, and if we want to live peacefully, be taken seriously and have healthy relationships with others, we would be wise to heed God’s words.

God says, “a gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare, and to “have nothing to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels” (Proverbs 15:1; 2 Timothy 2:23-24).

Next time you face a disagreement or you’re tempted to vent your feelings in an unproductive way, take the time to pause and ask God to help you get your heart, mind, and mouth under control before you act and speak. Then choose to respond and express your thoughts and feelings respectively and gently, remembering a gentle answer deflects anger, while harsh words produce quarrels.

Prayer: Lord, please help me to respond to people and situations with grace and gentleness. Let my words and actions be one’s that defuse a fight and deflect anger today. In Jesus name Amen