Dayle's Blog


May 2021

31 May – Commit To Change

I realised something about myself, and it’s that I actually like change. I might not think I do in the middle of a transition when life is messy, and I’m feeling stretched. But I do like change, and I like being around people who embrace that philosophy of life too.

It’s because change means growth, and I believe we all have the capacity for massive growth and development in every area of our lives.

It is fear and pride that causes a person to have the attitude: “This is who I am, either like it or lump it.”

I read an article about marriage, but it’s a great analogy and attitude for us to have for all of our lives and relationships. It said:

“We may fall in love with any person, but it’s beneficial if the person we choose to marry embodies one particular quality: that they are committed to change and transformation.

Don’t look for someone perfect, but for someone very aware they aren’t perfect but wants to grow and be better every day.

Don’t be in a relationship with people because of who they are or who you want them to be, but for who they are determined to become. Then spend a lifetime joining them in their becoming, as they join you in yours.

There is something powerful and special about a person who looks toward who they want to be and who has a commitment to transformation and a vision and purpose.

God loves us just the way we are. He accepts us as we are, but He also loves us too much to leave us like. He knows that we can have and become so much more than we can imagine if we only choose to follow and be open to Him shaping our lives.

I encourage you today to seek to be a person and be with someone who commits to growth and transformation. Invite God into every area of your life to grow and develop you to be all that you can be.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” (Isaiah 43:10)

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:1-2)

Prayer: Lord, I invite you to bring growth and change to every area of my life. Help me remember that you love and accept me just as I am, but you also love me too much to leave me with some of my attitudes and hurts. Please help me to continually grow to be all that you created me to be. In Jesus Name Amen.

30 May – How To Take That First Step

My husband and I have been married for nearly 31 years, but thirty-three years ago, when we first started dating, I’m sure I looked at people who had been together for 50 years and wondered how they managed to be married and happy for so long. It wasn’t really in my frame of reference or something I had seen in the relationships around me so I didn’t know if or how it could be done, even though that is what I wanted my life to look like.

However, as I decided to make choices that would enable me to move towards what I wanted and God obviously had planned for me all along things started to change and my life started to be reshaped to look like the dream I had in my heart.

I took the step to date the guy who God had brought into my world, then get engaged, then married, then have one child, then another and another until we had six children, and as I did I realised something. We don’t take hold of all that God has planned for us all at once.

God knows that it will take faith and trust in who He is rather than what we are capable of by ourselves to access the life He has planned for us. All He asks is that we trust Him, take a step at a time, and choose to keep walking as He leads.

I didn’t become a wife and mother of six kids all at once. We took a step and trusted that with God, we could be married happily and become parents. There was a process of learning, trusting and facing our fears and issues. We recognised our strengths together and had to acknowledge where we were weak and needed God to come in, where we had to grow and what areas of our lives we had to humble ourselves and ask for help.

When we choose to trust God, it does not mean being blind to the facts, challenges, or weaknesses. Rather trust recognises and assesses the dangers, threats and challenges and looks beyond and sees God.

Peter could only walk on water because Jesus stepped forward as Peter stepped out.

Gideon could only defeat a 130,000 strong army with 300 men because God’s hand moved to help him.

Joshua led several million people to march around the walls of Jericho and saw them come tumbling down as God honoured His promise and Joshua’s obedience. (Joshua 6; Judges 6; Matt 14:22-33)

None of them could have experienced victory in what they were asked and desired to do unless God was there to meet them. Yet how often do we desire guarantees over trusting God’s goodness and who He is and then invariably run the risk of missing out on the life God so wants to give us because we won’t take that first step?

Today where is Jesus calling you to take a step? Because wherever and whatever it is, you can be sure He is waiting to meet you there. As you consider how to take that first step, I recommend that you:

  1. Calculate the risk and determine if the regret of not stepping out is worse than the risk of failing or being disappointed.

2. Pray and seek God’s Word and His wisdom on what’s in your heart.

3. Make a plan of how you will make your move and then go on and “take that first step!”

“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” (James 1:5-7)

For God gave us not a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control“. (2Tim 1:7)

Prayer: Lord, help me not to be someone who watches life pass me because of my fears, desire for guarantees and needs for security. Please help me to take a step into what you have for me today. In Jesus name Amen.

29 May – Get Some Cushioning

cushion is a soft bag of material used for sitting or kneeling upon or to soften the hardness or angularity of a chair or couch. It protects from force or shock.

I use the term cushioning to describe what you can strategically surround yourself with to give your heart and mind a rest and to protect yourself from being exhausted and buffeted about by circumstances.

Cushioning enables you to prosper your soul and to steady your emotions by surrounding yourself with those people and things in your world that bring comfort, calm and perspective. Those cushions will be different for everyone, but it’s learning to find your secret and safe place so that you can recharge and refuel that are what I describe as cushions, rather than allowing ourselves to become drained and depleted.

I know when I or those close to me need some cushioning because you get what I call “brittle”. You start reacting to things around you more, become strained and have far less patience than usual. Emotions become erratic, and people get anxious as life can feel like it is smashing you about. This is where placing our “cushions” that protect us from lifes force or shock are so important.

Here are some useful “cushions” I’ve discovered that help me to take a break, give my inner world rest and help me to be strengthened, so that I am living out of the overflow, rather than just scraping by:

  • Go for a walk or do some form of healthy exercise. It will help you de-stress and relieve any tension.
  • Surround yourself with those things that comfort you physically, such as a hot shower or bath, putting on your comfy clothes, eating food that is both healthy and nourishing and makes you instantly feel better about the world.
  • Play music that brings an atmosphere of rest and peace.
  • Soft lighting, candles, and essential oils all help to minister to our senses and can cushion us.
  • Choose to set a sensible time to finish work for the day then watch a movie or your favourite show, read a book, or just sit back and relax.
  • Be around those you love and who remind you about the brighter side of life. Go or make some plans to do something you enjoy.
  • Forgo the negative relationships you may have or those who drain you and choose to spend some time being cushioned by those people in your world who encourage and edify your life.
  • Hug someone or allow yourself to be hugged. Physical contact, whether we like it or not, is an important part of being healthy. A hug or encouraging hand on our shoulder to let us know people care and are there for you is scientifically proven to improve mood, health and our resilience to stressful situations.
  • Spend some time with Jesus, listen to an encouraging message, and pray and give over all your cares and concerns to Him. “Cast all your cares upon Jesus because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)
  • Make some plans to move forward with your dreams. Write them down, pray and then trust God to direct your steps.

Be kind to yourself today and put some cushioning in place to strengthen and protect you from the shocks and strains of everyday life. Then you will be able to move forward strong, encouraged and protected.

Prayer: Lord please help me to put in place those things that will prosper my soul and protect me from being buffeted about by the things around us. Please reveal to me the cushions in my life. In Jesus name Amen

29 May – Don’t Mess With The Mumma Bear

I am known for being very protective of my family and especially my kids, and everyone who gets to know me discovers I am serious when I say not to mess with them. It’s like the saying, “Don’t poke or mess with the Mumma Bear’ and I mean it.

The last few days, I’ve especially been contemplating that if I go to such lengths to protect and fight for my kids and loved ones, how much more will God do the same for us.

If someone or something messes with us, He will go in to defend, protect, provide and override whatever and whoever is necessary to be faithful to His Word to care, protect and provide. You mess with his kids, and he will enact justice. “The LORD gives righteousness and justice to all who are treated unfairly.” (Psalm 103:6).

As I say, “it’s a fearful thing to fall into the hands of a living God.” (Heb 10:31). God’s Word is very clear that we don’t need to be consumed with a desire for vengeance because the Lord says, “vengeance is mine”, and all through the bible, you can see where God intervened to fulfil His Word to His people, even to the point of overriding the natural laws of nature to do so.

He made an axe head that a man had borrowed from a friend to float so that the user wouldn’t go into debt. Caused waters to part to provide a way through to the other side, raised people from the dead, closed lions mouths and rescued men from the fire. He silenced storms, confused enemy armies so that they attacked one another, reversed time where more hours in the day were needed, turned water into wine, multiplied food, and overcame sin and death so we could live free.

“Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD.” (Romans 12:9)Do not say, “I will repay evil”; wait for the Lord, and he will deliver you.” (Proverbs 20:22)

Whenever you face a situation where you need God to intervene and show himself strong on your behalf, trust Him that He will do just that. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8) It may look different from how you envisaged He would answer, and the timing is usually not what you expect. But He is faithful, and you can count on Him to act on your behalf, to protect, provide and bring justice as He works all things together for your good.

Today, put everything in his hands, declare His promises as you act to do what His Word says, and then trust God to do the rest.

“For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.” (2 Chronicles 16:19)

“The Lord is faithful, who will establish you and guard you from the evil one.” (2 Thessalonians 3:3)

God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfil it?” (Numbers 23:19)

Prayer: Lord, thank you for your faithfulness and that you show yourself strong on behalf of your people. I ask that you meet every need in my life today and work all things together for my good. In Jesus name Amen

27 May – Solution Focused

There are days, especially if you are inclined to stew or worry over things, when you can become more problem than solution-focused.

However, to get ourselves above our circumstances, we have to change our focus from looking at the problem to looking for the solution. It helps to have a heavenly view and perspective of our lives and situation because then we are far more inclined to think God’s thoughts about things, and in doing so become more solution-focused – and it’s being solution-focused that is going bring our breakthrough.

Whatever we are facing, God says He will walk with us through every challenge. We may not understand or even see how it’s possible to get to the other side, but He does, even if that means moving things supernaturally to get to us what He has promised in His Word.

The important thing in moving from a problem to a solution focus mentality is that “we cannot afford to entertain thoughts about ourselves that God doesn’t think about us. The moment we entertain, dwell or feed on those things contrary to His word over us, we believe a lie and war against the very purposes of God in our life.

The mind that is contrary to God sets itself up for failure.” (Bill Johnson)

Today I encourage you to look to the ultimate problem solver, God Himself. Even if He has to make water gush from a rock to quench your thirst, part the oceans, send birds to feed you, supernaturally supply money to provide for you, open blind eyes, heal broken hearts and bodies, soften hardened hearts, silence your enemies, or even resurrect to life those things that are dead, if God needs to do that to fulfil His Word to you He will. (See Exodus 17:6; Exodus 14:21; 1 Kings 17:216; Matthew 17:27; Mark 8:22-25; Matthew chap 8; John 11:38-44; Acts 9:1-19)

Look to Him and trust Him to care for you. Cast your cares upon Him and choose to place your problem in His capable hands. Then listen and ask Him to reveal His strategy and plan to enable you to keep walking through to the solution because He is faithful, and He will do what He has promised.

“Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” (Proverbs 16:3)

“Trust in the Lord completely, and do not rely on your own opinions.
All your heart relies on him to guide you, and he will lead you in every decision you make. Become intimate with him in whatever you do, and he will lead you wherever you go. Don’t think for a moment that you know it all.” 
(Proverbs 3:5-6)

Prayer: Lord, please help me be solution-focused and look to you for direction and guidance today. I choose to lean on you and your promises to me rather than allowing myself to get into fear and worry. I trust in you today, for you are faithful. In Jesus name Amen.

26 May – Happy Being Me

We’ve recently moved to a new neighbourhood as we have relocated to live in a different city, and the suburb we live in now is a bit more upmarket than what we are used to. In moving here God made a point of telling us that we are to always seek to increase in every area of our lives and to lean into Him to become all that He has planned for us, even if that makes us uncomfortable as we adjust and grow.

Before we moved, we sold most of our furniture and therefore we now need to replace it which has led to me browsing furniture websites and marketplace. Today, however, my youngest son Isaac came charging into the kitchen to tell me that some furniture was on the verge of someone’s house across the road and to come have a look. Isaac loves woodwork, and I like upcycling old furniture from other people’s unwanted goods so this was not an unusual request.

I know intrinsically that upcycling saves a lot of household goods from going into landfill and that it is a good use of my skills and resources, but today, I was hesitant as I wandered past the perfectly manicured gardens and affluent looking streets after my excited son. The reason being is that a small part of me felt like what we do and are might not be acceptable in this neighbourhood, and what were our new neighbours think as we picked through their rubbish?

That, however, didn’t stop Isaac. He had an animated discussion on our neighbours’ front lawn about a chest of drawers he felt I could work my creative skills on. He then ran down the street to pick up a blank canvas for me to paint on. as he grabbed some outdoor chairs along the way.

Isaac quite simply doesn’t care what anyone else thinks, and he reminded me by his actions and attitude that I shouldn’t either.  He sees only the potential of what he can restore and recreate for free, and his excitement is about using what God has put in front of him and honing and using his gifts and skills to make something useful and beautiful again. He is happy being himself and is blissfully unaware and unfazed by social status, protocol or what is or isn’t acceptable on our new street.

Today, Isaac and Jesus gently prompted me to continue to embrace and be comfortable with who I am because that person is pretty spectacular. It doesn’t matter if other people accept or understand that or not if I am honest and true to myself.

I love upcycling, being creative, resourceful and restoring things to be beautiful and useful again, and that is a great thing which I don’t need to apologise for.

I encourage you to be happy with who you are today as you seek God’s plan and best for your life. Who you are and all that you bring to the world is pretty great, and you should never apologise for that!

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10)

“I’m obviously not trying to flatter you or water down my message to be popular with men, but my supreme passion is to please God. For if all I attempt to do is please people, I would fail to be a true servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10 TPT)

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” (Romans 12:2)

Prayer: Lord, thank you for al l that I am and all that you have planned for me. Please help me to be comfortable with being me and lead me in the way I should go today. In Jesus name Amen.

25 May – Make A List

Make a list of what you’d like to see happen, point God’s Word at it and declare it done”! It’s God’s way to speak and call things into being; to speak the result, not the problem and stand firm until what you desire comes to pass. God is faithful to His promises, and if we hold steady and don’t give up on the destiny that He’s placed in our hearts, He will bring it to pass.

Some things I say are like alpha sprouts; they come up fast when planted, and you see them fulfilled quickly, and then other things might take a little longer. But regardless of when we plant the seed of a prayer request, there will always be something happening under the surface, in the “dirt” where you cannot see it.

God and all of heaven go to work and into setup mode once we pray, and if we keep watering our requests like water to a seed, give thanks and maintain a good attitude, like pouring sunshine on a seed, then that thing will come up; it will come to pass. The key is not to give up; to throw up our hands and say it’s not working, and say it’s too hard and start digging up our seed before it has a chance to sprout and breakthrough.

Some things take time to grow, like a mighty oak tree, but once they develop, that tree (the answer and breakthrough) will last and shape generations. Some of what we are praying and believing for today will affect our children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, and all those our lives impact, so it matters hugely that we hold steady now and do not grow weary and give up.

God loves us so much, and His thoughts and plans for us are always, always good. He doesn’t want to hold any good thing from us but to bless and prosper our lives so much that we’ll be shouting it from the rooftops. When we have a dream, desire or request, if it is something or someone who will make our lives more whole, blessed, joyful and help us fulfil our destiny in Him, He will move heaven and earth to make it happen.

I might add here that my husband of nearly 31 years was on a list of a hurting 17-year-old young woman. I wrote down and listed the desires of my heart, and God heard and well and truly surpassed my list and sent a handsome, tanned, young man complete with the craziest dimples and a smile that turned heads into my life.. he loved and still loves Jesus first and cherishes me like no-one else.

Whatever dream you have in your heart, facing or struggling with and believe in, I encourage you to write it down. Then go to Gods word and ask Him to give you a word from the bible to stand on. Google scripture if you need to find a scripture verse for the subject you need a promise about. The right verse will jump out at you, and when it does, write it down and start declaring it done.

God says He is alert and active, watching over His Word to perform it, and that the angels listen up and go into action whenever people who believe start speaking and calling in Gods promises. (Jeremiah 1:12; Ps 103:20) When attached to God’s Word, that prayer, request, dream, and desire has the power to come to pass because it has dynamic power in it like a supercharged seed ready to grow and bear fruit.

Write down the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it” (Habakkuk 2:2)

For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favour and honour. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly”. (Psalm 84:11)

He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all – how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” (Romans 8:32)

Prayer: Lord, thank you that you want to answer my prayers. Please help me have the courage to write down the things in my heart and start believing it is possible that I will see them happen in and through my life. All things become possible when you are involved, so thank you for the breakthrough and answers today. In Jesus name Amen

24 May – What To do When Things Don’t Go To Plan

Many people know what it is to have a dream, and many also know what it feels like when they “don’t do what they set out to do”. Sometimes things do not work out as planned, and we can wonder where we went wrong, whether we heard from God correctly, and what we should do now?

I’ve discovered that it’s really important to look at what we do have going for us at these times. It’s helpful to stop, reflect, pinpoint and write down where and why we feel like we’ve failed or are disappointed, and then also where we have experienced success.

Then we can build on our successes and seek God over whether we can do anything about those things that didn’t go according to plan.

Today take a few moments to assess how your vision and dreams are progressing.

  • If you feel like you have come to a “standstill” and nothing is happening, or you are suffering from discouragement, take a moment to step back, seek God and reassess.
  • Is the reality of pursuing your vision and dream what you thought? Is the passion still there? Do you need to take some time for God to heal and restore you?
  • What little step can you make today towards fulfilling the bigger picture? You may not feel like you can do everything right now, but what can you do?
  • Keep building on your successes and do what you can do to work towards achieving your dream.

You may not be the best at whatever you are working towards yet, but you can practice, train, and start to build an image inside you of success and blessing today.

You may not be able to preach to thousands yet, but you can walk across the street to share with and pray for your neighbours.

You may not be able to lose 20kg today, but you can begin to make some wise choices about your eating and exercise today.

You may not be in a relationship, work or family situation of your dreams right now, but you can keep building your faith and expectation for good things to happen in your life and for God to move in your situation every day.

  • Encourage yourself with God’s word – it’s “The manual for success” and holds the wisdom of Heaven in it.
  • Let go and give over any past disappointments or failures to God. Let Him restore your self-worth and self-esteem with what He says about you. Allow Him to renew the image inside of you to one of success and not failure, being blessed instead of feeling cursed, healthy instead of sick, abundantly supplied instead of living in lack, bold instead of fearful, and loved instead of rejected.
  • Write down God’s promises and carry them around with you. Then every time you have a negative or fearful thought, you can remind yourself of God’s love and promises and renew your mind with what God says about your future.
  • Surround yourself with those people who will believe with you, pray for you, and encourage you in your dreams and vision. God says, “Roll your works upon the Lord. (Commit and trust them wholly to Him; He will cause your thoughts to become agreeable to His will, and) so shall your plans be established and succeed.” (Proverbs 16:3) “Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.” (Psalm 37:5)

Decide what you can do today and then do it and remember to keep walking!

Prayer: Lord, help to know where I am succeeding and where I need encouragement in your Word. Please show me what I can do right now to keep walking towards my dream and the vision you have put inside of me. In Jesus name Amen.

23 May – How To Be Worry Free

Jesus advises us not to worry, and especially to not worry about tomorrow, for today has enough things to keep us busy. Instead of worrying, He says to get in the habit of trusting Him and learning to worship through whatever we are worrying about.  (Matthew 6)

God wants us to know that He has our future in His competent hands, loves our families and the people in our life even more than we do and that He will work out every circumstance for good for those who love and follow Him.

The more often we begin our day entrusting everything into God’s hands and seeking heavens perspective regarding our relationships, finances, and the day’s concerns, the easier it is to stay out of worry.

Today I encourage you to be worry free by:

  1. Giving all your concerns to God as you read and listen to His Word so you can gain His perspective and wisdom.
  2. Focus on the good things before you, remembering to quickly hand over any worries to God if they come up throughout the day.
  3. Worship away your worries. Praise and worship reminds us how big God is and invites His presence and power into whatever situation we may be facing.

God ordained praise to silence our enemy, which means if you feel under attack, the best thing you can do is praise and worship because the devil and his lot hate it and will flee from you as you do. “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7)

From the mouths of children and infants You have ordained praise on account of Your adversaries, to silence the enemy and avenger.” (Psalm 8:2)

God knows everything that is going on and the end from the beginning already, so when we choose to trust Him, we can start enjoying life knowing He’s holding everything together.

Jesus said, “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food and your body more than clothing? Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?

“And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet Solomon was not dressed as beautifully as they are in all his glory. And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?

“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. 

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” (Matthew 6:25-34)

Prayer: Lord, please help me worship through any of my worries, cultivate and have an attitude of trusting you with my life as I look to have heavens perspective about my circumstances. Thank you that you are taking care of me today.  In Jesus name Amen

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