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13 June – How To Win The Battle In Your Head

Right thinking is a vital necessity to living a victorious life.  Our actions, emotions and beliefs are a direct result of our thoughts.

The bible says it this way, for “as a man thinks in his heart so does he become”. (Proverbs 23:7)

God wants us to think more carefully about what we are thinking upon because He knows that our minds are both a powerful resource and a battlefield that helps shape our lives and future.

Our minds under the authority of our spirits are a resource to think, speak and believe for amazing, wonderful things, which God reveals to us so we can declare forth and bring them to pass.

However, our minds can also become a battlefield where the devil and his demons attack by whispering and murmuring unbelief, doubts, fear, strife, anger, and anything else they can think of to get us off track and thinking negatively.

Unfortunately, most of us spend far too much time entertaining thoughts that are not of God, which then causes us to continually battle with issues such as fear, doubts, anger, and anxiety. Instead of struggling under these negative forces,

To combat this assault on our thoughts, God has given us some keys.

God wants us to challenge and take captive every thought that disagrees with His Word and the revelation He has given us so that we can overcome them. (James 4:7)

Take every negative, fearful, and contrary word captive and make it bow to what God says about you.

Surround yourself with other people who also choose to believe and speak what God says.

Stand and declare what God says about your life: your finances, relationships, children, homes, workplaces, city, nation, and future. Do your homework and dig into the word and find out if you don’t know as you think upon and speak only the truths found in God’s Word.

It pays to be smart and realise that the devil subtlety and systematically uses suggestions in our thoughts to trap us into fear and doubt, leading to an array of other problems.

To fight back, we can be firm and uncompromising about what we allow ourselves to think about. God says to go on the offensive by declaring what God says about us instead of dwelling upon and accepting things that try to influence us to believe less than what God says is possible or who we are in Him.

I encourage you to use the God-given authority you have been given to bring the battle in your mind under control.

Don’t stand for the assault on your mind a minute longer, but get hold of what Jesus has done for you and win the battle in your head today.

“Resist the devil and he will flee from you” (James 4:7)

“The weapons of our warfare are not the weapons of the world. Instead, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We tear down arguments, and every presumption set up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10”4-5)

“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7)

Prayer: Lord, I’m taking captive every negative thought that rises against the knowledge and truth of who you are and who I am in you. Help me to stand today on your word, and that I would begin today to think and declare only what you say about my circumstances, relationships and future. In Jesus name Amen.

12 June – The In-Between Moments

Any destination or fulfilment of a goal in life has what I call in-between moments, where we haven’t quite reached a goal or destination but have to walk out the process to get where we want to be.

I’ve discovered, however, that it’s all these in-between moments that make up a large portion of our life. Of course, the success, awards, accolades, and end goal are amazing when reached, but these achievements aren’t the whole story.

It’s also the in-between places, those everyday tasks, relationships and where we consistently stick to the plan to achieve our dreams and goals that make our lives full, whole and reflective of a life well-lived. 

God wants our lives to be full and overflowing and knows that it’s not just about arriving at our goals that brings colour and meaning to our lives, but everything we experience and get to live in-between on the journey. (John 10:10)

“Maybe the good stuff isn’t ahead or behind. Maybe it’s somewhere in between right in the midst of this moment, here and now.” ( J Goins) 

To make the most of all of what we get to live make it a a habit to press pause and be mindful and thankful of the space you are in, the people you are with and everything around you, rather than just rushing through your tasks, connection points with others and your day. The good stuff is here and now!

Take the opportunity to seize those in-between moments between points A and B in your day, and make them ones you can remember and enjoy.

It’s never just another day, but one in which God wants us to rejoice because when it comes down to it, He’s the one who made it for you to enjoy. Nothing is a surprise to Him, and when we seek to live our day being thankful and looking for His hand in all we experience and get to live out, we will realise God is there making great all our in-between moments too.

“This is the day that the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it.” (Psalm 118:24)

The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows].” (John 10:10 AMP)

Prayer: Lord, thank you for this day and all that you have given me to enjoy in it. Please help me keep perspective to enjoy the journey and remember that you will work all things together for good as I trust in you. I thank you for all the in between moments on the way today. In Jesus name Amen.

Promote what you love, instead of what you hate.

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Promote what you love, instead of bashing what you hate.”

When we share and promote what we love, instead of focusing and talking about the things we don’t, we are far more likely to become the people we were made to be, draw like minded people into our world, and be more pleasant to be around.

When we promote what we love we are sharing what we are passionate about and others are far more likely to respond to us and be people we form heart to heart connections with.

When we share our hearts, what excites and motivates us; what we value, and are passionate about it either attracts or repels others from who we really are and what we care about.

We can however go thorough life never really promoting and sharing what we love, and therefore never knowing true unity or many deeply connected relationships. 

We instead fall into the trap of seeking to only fit in, be accepted and liked, and in the process never reveal who the real us is to many of our acquaintances, friends or even family.

God however has a better plan and that is to be one in heart, and to understand and value one another. 

There is power and blessing to be had in our families, friendships, workplaces, and relationships when we relate honestly, and make our whole lives about what we love rather than what we hate.

It also draws those who are like-minded and share the same heart and beliefs into our world, revealing as we do who and where our real connections lie.

God actually promises He will command a blessing on that sort of unity and heart to heart connection, especially when we are seeking after those things that are pleasing to Him.

“Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!” (Psalm 133:1)

“After they had prayed, their meeting place was shaken, and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and spoke the word of God boldly. The congregation of believers was one in heart and soul. No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they shared everything they owned. With great power, the apostles continued to give their testimony about the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And abundant grace was upon them all.” (Acts 4:31-33)

“All the believers were together and had everything in common.” (Acts 2:44)

Today, share and promote what you love, rather than getting dragged into what you don’t. It’s people who resonate with what you love that you will ultimately unite and build heart to heart connections with.

Prayer: Lord help me to know what I love, and to then share and promote those things so that those people who also resonate with the things I love will be drawn into my world. Please help me make real heart to heart connections. In Jesus name Amen

10 June – How To Forgive

One thing that prevents people from connecting heart to heart is unforgiveness. Instead of the close connections God created each of us for, when we carry unforgiveness in our hearts our life is crowded with mistrust, stress, bitterness, resentment, cynicism, and negativity.

Without forgiveness there can be no real healing of the hurt, for we end up carrying it around with us, going over and over what others may have done, when often people probably don’t even realise our issue, or care, or even remember.

Forgive quickly and move on.

We help ourselves most when we forgive people quickly, because unforgiveness only leads to bitterness, harm, broken relationships and even illness. When we choose forgiveness it releases the power of God to go to work in our situations and in us.

So how do we forgive?

1. Choose – you have to decide to forgive, and not live just by how you feel, because most of the time you won’t feel like forgiving at all. God says forgive, so we forgive knowing that He asks us for our own good.

2. Depend on God to help you. He will empower and help you to walk in forgiveness, to let go and to move on, because He has better things for you.

3. Pray –Pray for our enemies, and bless those who curse you (Romans 12:14; Luke 6:27-28). For as you forgive you make room in your hearts for good.

4. Look ahead – Instead of focusing on the past think about and plan for the future. God has far better things ahead than behind.

As we forgive you become more open to the goodness of life instead of looking at everything through the eyes of bitterness.

Forgiveness draws people to us, rather than repelling them and opportunities, relationships, ideas, creativity and answers will flow into our lives because we are open to receive rather than being full of bitterness, anger and strife.

Forgiveness is good for us, and as we choose to forgive quickly and move on, trusting God to heal and protect us, we will be able to connect more readily with others.

Today choose to obey God’s way of doing things and live a life of forgiveness. Be set free as you move on from holding onto people’s wrongs, and make room in your life to connect heart to heart.

“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:14-15)

Prayer: Lord please help me to forgive quickly, and move on to better things. I give you my hurt and anger and choose to trust you to take care of me and to heal my heart. In Jesus name Amen.

9 June – Building Heart To Heart Connections

We all benefit from having healthy, loving relationships where we have a real heart to heart connection.

A good way to build these relationships is to choose to allow people to see the real us. That doesn’t mean we have to leave our heart’s wide open to just anyone, but know who to have in our close circle and then allow God to bring the right people into our lives, rather than remaining distant all the time.

To know someone’s heart and be able to go deep with someone means we listen and relate with our hearts and not just our heads. We allow ourselves to be open, transparent and for people to see the real us.

That doesn’t mean we have to leave our heart’s wide open to just anyone, but it’s knowing and leaning who to have in our close circle of disclosure and trust and who not to.

We start with the small things and then gradually build our trust and connection. We discover each other’s likes, dislikes, fears and concerns, habits, beliefs, values, dreams, strengths, and weaknesses and let them know ours.

Not everyone we meet will be those we’ll build a close heart to heart bond with. But if we learn how to be confident and real about who we are, we will attract the people into our lives we can ultimately build close connections with. Plus, we will quickly learn to discern those we need to treat with kindness and respect, but perhaps not hold so close.

God also desires for us to know His heart and to be able to share with us. However, just as in human relationships, we have to choose to be transparent, open and desire to go deeper with Him.

I’ve discovered that if I am open and honest with God, I am far more likely to have deeper connections with the people around me. This is because my stability, security, and confidence are foremost founded in my relationship with God, which flows out to every other bond I have.

Today take some time, to be honest with yourself and God. Have a heart to heart with Him, and determine to consistently spend time building that relationship, which will then enhance and deepen every other meaningful connection in your life.

“But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.” (Psalm 86:15)

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.  By this, all people will know that you are my disciples if you have love for one another.” (John 13:34-35)

Prayer: Lord, help me be honest and transparent with you, and that as I do, I will learn how to be open and more connected with others around me. Would you please send those people into my world that I can have heart to heart relationships. In Jesus name Amen.

8 June – 2000 Blogs

Today’s post is my 2000th blog and if I have learnt anything from posting every day for over five years it is the importance of consistency and that when you make an effort and choice to be more committed and consistent in one area of your life it starts to flow over to other areas of your life..

Even the best business plans, goals, study schedules, fitness regime etc will fail without a dedication to consistency.

If we say we are going to do something, we aim to do it. If we say we are going to be somewhere, we’re there. If we initiate a new process or initiative, we follow through. Consistency is a must as you build and grow in any area of your life.

Being consistent is a daily choice. It is a “Habit” How often do you think about brushing your teeth, getting dressed or breathing?

Your body has internalised these activities, and you end up doing them every day without thinking so aim to cultivate the habit of doing successful activities.

It is just a handful of habits over the course of many years that separates the victors from the victims.

Jesus is the same yesterday today and forever so he is a great example to have in the power of consistency.  (Hebrews 13:8) He isn’t fickle, doesn’t change His mind from one day to another and is always constant.

Can you imagine what you can accomplish and the type of person you will be in the next 20 years with consistency? Because consistency nurtures discipline, commitment, and the forming of your habits and what type of life you live..

Now imagine what you can do if you teach yourself to be consistent in any given area of your life? Start by seeing yourself being consistent, achieving and breaking through your limits.

The bible says that as a person thinks so they shall be, so start seeing and thinking of yourself as a person who is committed and consistent.

For as he thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7)

The benefits of developing consistency in our lives far outweighs the effort. There is a revelation of God and who you are as a person that comes from consistency that the inconsistent person will never see.

Determine today to be consistent. Do not try to base today on yesterday’s time with God, or the workout last week but be consistent in something today. Then tomorrow get up and do it all again!

It’s not easy but it is Simple!

Prayer: Thank you Lord that I can do all things through you who gives me strength. I am a consistent, committed person that sticks to things. Help me today. In Jesus Name Amen

7 June – Having A Great New Idea

Thinking creatively and having new ideas is so important to who we are, how we live a life that is thriving and not just surviving, and creating a space where people can contribute in a positive way to the world around them.

When we allow ourselves to think creatively, it inspires ideas, and ideas inspire change.

Everything begins with an idea, and good ideas are far more likely to become great ideas when we allow creative thoughts to flow, give ourselves permission to fail, examine our ideas from different angles, pray over and then LET THEM OUT!

Some things I have learnt about how to make our ideas happen are:

Keep quiet about your idea until it’s properly “birthed” in your heart and mind. Let it percolate. If you share ideas too quickly, then the “seed” of an idea will quite possibly be stomped all over and never even make it to the planning stage.

Pray, seek God and a green light from Him to proceed. That usually means having an “inner witness” or peace in our spirits that this is a “God idea” and not just a good idea. It’s also the knowing inside of us (even if we feel initially unsure) that we are to run with it.

Write your idea down – make it plain and simple to understand. The bible says to “write the vision and make it plain that they who see it might run with it” (Habakkuk 2:2), Meaning that the vision or idea is simple to read and easy for everyone to move on and quickly grasp hold of so that they get involved.

Share it – but share it with like-minded and spirited people – God warns us to “not cast our pearls before swine” (Matthew 7:6). Meaning don’t lay out everything important to us in front of just anyone, but people who have the same heart and who we already have or can build a strong connection with.

Plan a strategy to make it happen. God’s wisdom and the direction and leading of the Holy Spirit are important. Let Him lead, help gather others, bring provision into your hands, and reveal the easiest route or method to achieve the idea. Otherwise, we can easily find ourselves doing things in our strength and end up getting stressed out about something that should have been a blessing.

Get others involved- this is where our leadership skills, our capacity to trust God and others, and our ability to “let go and let them” are revealed as we ask people to get involved with our idea. Inspiring others and the ability to build a team around us is something we can always develop and work on, and it’s what makes the best of creative ideas come to fruition. Not only does it half the workload, but it also gives other people the chance to be a part of the idea and to make it their own. Generally, we are “better together”, and we can achieve so much more.

Be encouraged next time you have an idea to give it time to percolate and settle in your heart before talking. Then talk to God about it, plan a strategy with Him, follow His directions, share it with others and take a team approach.

Whether it’s simply motivating your household to have a clean-up around the house, taking a holiday or visit, or trying something new, it all starts with an idea. Likewise, the larger-scale things such as; travelling, moving, putting on an event or big celebration, starting a new venture, business, outreach, ministry or a new church, remember everything begins with an idea, and it’s our job to discover which ideas are both great and God ideas, so that we can live our best life.

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans”. (Proverbs 16:3)

Prayer: Lord, please help me focus and spend my time, energy and creativity on  “God ideas” that will have the greatest impact and bring the most joy and fulfilment to both my life and those around me. In Jesus name Amen

6 June – A Journey Of A Thousand Miles Begins With One Step

I was recently reading about some changes to our diet that can benefit our overall health. The information was comprehensive and convincing and sounded like a great idea. However after completing my reading I felt to be honest overwhelmed at the thought of it all, until I realised I don’t need to make a whole lot of changes all at once. I can instead choose one area and begin to change that until it becomes the norm and our families habit.

We usually know what we need to do, and if we don’t God says we are to seek Him and His wisdom to find out. When we know what to do it usually means making changes to some of our habits, mindsets and the way we approach things. Unfortunately change is something most of us don’t like, primarily because it’s easier to talk about doing what we know to do, rather than actually doing it.

The key is to not make sweeping changes all at once to our lives but instead, with God’s help to implement small changes progressively over time.

To do that it helps to:

Be self-aware – To observe ones-self and to make a note of what we think about, do and say in our day-to-day life. This helps us to note our behaviours and thought patterns so that we can be better prepared to initiate change where relevant and necessary.

Replace a negative with a positive – Change is easier if we replace a habit or lifestyle choice by rewarding ourselves with something positive, rather than just trying to focus on not doing something.

Realise you have help – God says, “nothing is impossible for those who believe, and that we can do all things because He gives us strength. He promises He will lead and guide us and He also has people at the ready who will encourage and support us if we need them. (Philippians 4:13; Luke 1;37; Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

Today I encourage you to observe yourself for a few days.

Examine and even write down what you are thinking, saying and doing and line these observations up against whether they are things or attitudes where, “you know what to do” and just aren’t’ doing or being them, or where you need to seek some Godly wisdom so as to make some positive changes for the better.

Then choose wisely and make small changes to start moving in the direction you want to be heading.

Try to do something new every week and remember to surround yourself with those who will encourage you.

As a famous saying says, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Choose this week to begin to take those steps to the life that God has planned for you. For, as Catherine of Sienna once said, “when we be who God meant us to be, we will set the world on fire.

Prayer: Lord thankyou that you give me strength and ability to begin and to keep walking. Help me today to start to make small changes so that I can continue to grow and develop my potential, to know you more, and to live the life you always had planned for me. In Jesus name Amen.

5 June – The Little by Little Principle

God can bring change in our lives suddenly and instantaneously, and it’s great when He moves in our lives like that. But more often than not, there is a process – and it’s in the process a little at a time that God works on our character, strength, patience, faith, and on who we are and how we see ourselves.

Some days we may not feel like we are progressing or succeeding, but if we stay consistent looking at our growth like we were plotting it on a graph, it would reveal a definite curve slanting upwards, with ups and downs along the way. That’s because we grow and progress most often little by little.

God outlined the little-by-little principle in the account of the Israelites story in Exodus 23:29-30 when he said,  “Little by little I will drive them out from before you, until you have increased, and you inherit the land (NKJV). God didn’t remove their enemies or obstacles to give the land over to the Israelites all at once. If he had they would not have been ready to take possession of it fully and been overrun by their enemies and the wild animals in the land. He allowed them to increase in strength and numbers until they were able to possess the land easily.

Real strength and growth develops as we consistently do what causes us to grow and reach our goals. If it’s fitness, we exercise regularly, preferably every day. If it’s to eat better, we choose to eat well every day. If we want to excel at playing an instrument or become proficient at some other skill, it is in daily practice that we will find success and accomplishment. If we want to draw closer to God, know Him more, and build our faith, then we spend time with Him every day.

We don’t do these things only when we feel like it, but constantly, following the little by little principle.

If there is something that you wish you did more regularly, try doing it every day. Write every day, pack a lunch every day, go for a walk or exercise in some way every day, read every day. Spend time with God every day, read and listen to His word every day. Pray every day.

Determine to do something a little bit every day, and it gets easier until suddenly, one day, you find yourself seeing results.

Today decide to begin practicing the “little by little” principle in the pursuits that will help you to become the person you were made to be.

And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” (Philippians 1:6)

Prayer: Lord, please help me begin the daily process of doing something every day toward growing and being who you made me be. Please help me to be consistent as I keep increasing my faith, skills and knowledge of you and what you have planned for my life. In Jesus name Amen

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