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4 June – Choosing Honour

Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about honour – the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right and treating something or someone with great respect and high esteem.

The bible says to honour God, our Mother and Father; to honour widows, marriage, our leaders and those who serve. To honour one another and to give honour to whom honour is due (Exodus 20:12; Duet 5:16; Matt 15:4 1 Thess 15:13; Heb 13:4; Rom 12:10; 13:7)

Honour acts like a checkpoint and guidepost for our thoughts, behaviour and beliefs and is something my husband and I have tried to teach our children and those we lead. To honour their bodies, intellect, gifts, calling, purpose, relationships, other people and their relationship with God.

When we honour God, we respect who He is and what He says and hold His word and directives in high regard to us.

When we honour ourselves and others, we live very different because we choose to honour by caring for and not cheapening or dragging ourselves down through our actions or beliefs. We know we are valuable, and we consequently behave accordingly.

The consequences of not honouring is dishonour and will cause shame, disgrace, and discredit. When we do that, we cheapen and drag down what was once honourable and highly esteemed, and we miss God’s best for our lives.

“Without integrity and honour, having everything means nothing”. (R. Sharma)

Today I encourage you to treat yourself with honour and respect because you were created in the image of God and are highly valued by Him.

God put a lot of thought and planning into making and bestowing gifts and a purpose into your life. Don’t cheapen the honour He has placed upon you by believing anything less about yourself than who He says you are.

We also actually honour and glorify God the most when we rise to be the person we were created to be and refuse to allow ourselves to be discredited or dragged down by ours or other people’s wrong thinking, actions and behaviour towards us or in our conduct.

Choose the way of honour today!

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” (Ephesians 2:10 NLT)

“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love, give preference to one another in honour”.(Romans 12:10)

“Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonourable, he will be a vessel for honourable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work.”(2 Tim 2:21)

Prayer: Lord, would you please forgive me where I have treated you and others with dishonour and disrespect or have allowed myself to be discredited and dragged down because I undervalued my worth. Please help me honour a central value in my life and honour you in all I am, say, and do. In Jesus name Amen.

3 June – Listen To Your Words

When our kids were younger (we have six), I would often be so tired I’d feel physically sick by the end of the day. I’d understandably say, “Oh goodness, I’m so tired”. However, one day God stopped me in my tracks and said, “Stop saying you’re tired all the time. I will give you strength and lead and guide you in what you are to do and where you need to be. Every time you say, “I’m so tired, your body is listening and responding, and you are getting more and more tired every day”.

I chose to listen and discovered that as I stopped focusing and saying how tired I was, I had more energy, achieved more, and did not feel wrecked by the end of the day.

Our brain (and subsequently our body and emotions) does what it thinks we want, and our brain knows what we want by the words we speak out of our mouth. I was saying how tired I was, so I kept getting more and more tired.

As I started to speak differently about my energy levels, I began to feel better and energised regardless of whether I’d had sleep or not, and funnily enough, the kids would often sleep better too.

Our children are now older, but I still try to make sure I don’t speak, “I’m so tired, as I know my body is listening to everything I say. Instead, I speak, “I am strong, fitter than I’ve ever been, self-controlled, and my youth is being renewed like the eagles.” Isaiah 40:31)

When you speak energy, health, success, strength and things working out for your good, that is what will be headed in your direction. It’s how God works as he “calls those things that are not as though they are.” (Romans 4:17) You may not yet be experiencing what you are saying, but whatever you want to happen, speak life to it and expect things to happen.

Today, if you want to know where your life is going, listen to the words of your mouth. But don’t use your words to describe your life; use your words to change and shape the life you want.

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Proverbs 18:21)

A fool’s mouth is his ruin, And his lips are the snare of his soul.” (Prov 18:7)

“He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagles.” (Psalm 103:5)

God who gives life to the dead and calls those things which do not exist as though they did.” (Romans 4:17)

Prayer: Lord, please help me watch over what I say and to practice speaking those things that I desire and that you say are beneficial and good for me. In Jesus name Amen.

2 June – Look For The Good

The bible teaches, ”For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7), and that “A cheerful heart is good medicine” (17:22). That’s because God knows the importance of focusing and filling our hearts and minds with good news and that which encourages and give us hope.

God wants us to pay attention to those things that are good for where there is good news, there is joy; where there is joy, there is hope, and where there is hope, faith is activated, and then all things become possible.

Good news can also cause concrete, positive changes in our lives by the thoughts we think. Our thoughts change our biochemistry as our hormones, cells, brain circuitry, and even our genetics and are all affected by our thoughts. Scientists are discovering that we can positively ‘rewire our brains’ by resolving to focus on things we appreciate, instead of things we fear or dislike.

With all these positive and beneficial effects let’s decide to focus on and look for the good and those things that generate peace and joy. When we listen to and read the news feeds know what to focus upon and choose to seek out the good news stories and not just the latest threat. When in conversation, listen out for good, not the bad, and when we hear or experience something great then take a moment to share it.

The world is an amazingly wonderful place, and God is all around us in the very air we breathe. He is working, healing, restoring and releasing the miraculous every single day, but if all we primarily only look for and focus upon the bad news, we quite possibly will miss Him working or not believe or recognise His hand right in front of us.

Today look for God in your circumstances and trust that He is working everything for your good, because the world is waiting for us to apply our faith, lean into peace and joy, and to share some good news.

The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows].” (John 10:10 Amp)

The earth is the LORD’s, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it” (Psalm 24:1)

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be apparent to all. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Philippians 4:5)

Prayer: Lord, help me be good news focused instead of bad, and that I would attract and be like a magnet for good news, positivity and the miraculous so that I can share it with others and increase the joy today.  In Jesus Name Amen.

1 June – Imagine What You Want Your Future To Look Like

Mindsets change behaviours, and it is possible to create new thought patterns in our brains and for us to change.

The bible says, “For as He thinks in His heart so is He” (Proverbs 23:7), so it is therefore very important what we believe and how we think so we can keep moving forward in life.

Daily affirmations or self-talk based on what God says about us are a helpful tool in achieving freedom. When we think and speak the truth about our lives and future instead of negative, limiting beliefs and mindsets, we can be transformed as we affirm what God says about us, tell ourselves a different story and renew our minds to all that God says is possible.

The bible says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:2)

A helpful key is to take time each day to close our eyes and imagine ourselves as God says we are and what we want to be.

By allowing ourselves to imagine and “see” ourselves attaining the goals we set and what God says about us, it becomes easier to overcome the hurdles that can often attempt to block our way. If you desire to be fit and healthy, an overcomer, peaceful, loving, etc., begin to visualise yourself that way. You will begin to see this image of yourself slowly replacing the current one. This is one way we can start to write and tell a different story about who we are and believe and act upon who God says we are.

Find a quiet place without distractions and think about what you desire to happen today or, if in the evening, what has happened throughout the day.

Focus on what you did right instead of what you did wrong and any positives of your day.

Speak out God’s promises and what He says in his word about you as you visualise what you want the future to look like.

Here are some positive affirmations God says about our life to help as you move forward into all that you are created to be:

I am a new creature in Christ: old things have passed away; behold, all things are new. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

No weapon that is formed against me shall prosper” (Isaiah 54:17)

I prosper in everything I put my hand to. I have prosperity in all areas of my life–spiritually, financially, mentally, and socially. (Jeremiah 29:11)

I take every thought captive unto the obedience of Jesus Christ, casting down every imagination and every high and lofty thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God. (2 Corinthians 10:5)

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he; therefore, all of my thoughts are positive. (Proverbs 23:7)

I cast all my care on the Lord, for He cares for me. (1 Peter 5:7)

I don’t have a spirit of fear but of power and love and a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)

I am creative because the Holy Spirit lives in me. (John 14:26; 1 Corinthians 6:19)

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13)

Jesus took up all my infirmities and carried all my diseases. I am healed. (Isaiah 54:3; Matthew 8:17; 1 Peter 2:24)

Take some time today to seek God and start to imagine and see the life He has for you.

Prayer: Lord, thank you that with your help and wisdom, I can get out of any ruts and negative mindsets and behaviours I find myself in and be transformed into the person you have created me to be. Please help me to think upon and speak only the things you say about me today. In Jesus name Amen.

31 May – Commit To Change

I realised something about myself, and it’s that I actually like change. I might not think I do in the middle of a transition when life is messy, and I’m feeling stretched. But I do like change, and I like being around people who embrace that philosophy of life too.

It’s because change means growth, and I believe we all have the capacity for massive growth and development in every area of our lives.

It is fear and pride that causes a person to have the attitude: “This is who I am, either like it or lump it.”

I read an article about marriage, but it’s a great analogy and attitude for us to have for all of our lives and relationships. It said:

“We may fall in love with any person, but it’s beneficial if the person we choose to marry embodies one particular quality: that they are committed to change and transformation.

Don’t look for someone perfect, but for someone very aware they aren’t perfect but wants to grow and be better every day.

Don’t be in a relationship with people because of who they are or who you want them to be, but for who they are determined to become. Then spend a lifetime joining them in their becoming, as they join you in yours.

There is something powerful and special about a person who looks toward who they want to be and who has a commitment to transformation and a vision and purpose.

God loves us just the way we are. He accepts us as we are, but He also loves us too much to leave us like. He knows that we can have and become so much more than we can imagine if we only choose to follow and be open to Him shaping our lives.

I encourage you today to seek to be a person and be with someone who commits to growth and transformation. Invite God into every area of your life to grow and develop you to be all that you can be.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” (Isaiah 43:10)

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:1-2)

Prayer: Lord, I invite you to bring growth and change to every area of my life. Help me remember that you love and accept me just as I am, but you also love me too much to leave me with some of my attitudes and hurts. Please help me to continually grow to be all that you created me to be. In Jesus Name Amen.

30 May – How To Take That First Step

My husband and I have been married for nearly 31 years, but thirty-three years ago, when we first started dating, I’m sure I looked at people who had been together for 50 years and wondered how they managed to be married and happy for so long. It wasn’t really in my frame of reference or something I had seen in the relationships around me so I didn’t know if or how it could be done, even though that is what I wanted my life to look like.

However, as I decided to make choices that would enable me to move towards what I wanted and God obviously had planned for me all along things started to change and my life started to be reshaped to look like the dream I had in my heart.

I took the step to date the guy who God had brought into my world, then get engaged, then married, then have one child, then another and another until we had six children, and as I did I realised something. We don’t take hold of all that God has planned for us all at once.

God knows that it will take faith and trust in who He is rather than what we are capable of by ourselves to access the life He has planned for us. All He asks is that we trust Him, take a step at a time, and choose to keep walking as He leads.

I didn’t become a wife and mother of six kids all at once. We took a step and trusted that with God, we could be married happily and become parents. There was a process of learning, trusting and facing our fears and issues. We recognised our strengths together and had to acknowledge where we were weak and needed God to come in, where we had to grow and what areas of our lives we had to humble ourselves and ask for help.

When we choose to trust God, it does not mean being blind to the facts, challenges, or weaknesses. Rather trust recognises and assesses the dangers, threats and challenges and looks beyond and sees God.

Peter could only walk on water because Jesus stepped forward as Peter stepped out.

Gideon could only defeat a 130,000 strong army with 300 men because God’s hand moved to help him.

Joshua led several million people to march around the walls of Jericho and saw them come tumbling down as God honoured His promise and Joshua’s obedience. (Joshua 6; Judges 6; Matt 14:22-33)

None of them could have experienced victory in what they were asked and desired to do unless God was there to meet them. Yet how often do we desire guarantees over trusting God’s goodness and who He is and then invariably run the risk of missing out on the life God so wants to give us because we won’t take that first step?

Today where is Jesus calling you to take a step? Because wherever and whatever it is, you can be sure He is waiting to meet you there. As you consider how to take that first step, I recommend that you:

  1. Calculate the risk and determine if the regret of not stepping out is worse than the risk of failing or being disappointed.

2. Pray and seek God’s Word and His wisdom on what’s in your heart.

3. Make a plan of how you will make your move and then go on and “take that first step!”

“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” (James 1:5-7)

For God gave us not a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control“. (2Tim 1:7)

Prayer: Lord, help me not to be someone who watches life pass me because of my fears, desire for guarantees and needs for security. Please help me to take a step into what you have for me today. In Jesus name Amen.

29 May – Get Some Cushioning

cushion is a soft bag of material used for sitting or kneeling upon or to soften the hardness or angularity of a chair or couch. It protects from force or shock.

I use the term cushioning to describe what you can strategically surround yourself with to give your heart and mind a rest and to protect yourself from being exhausted and buffeted about by circumstances.

Cushioning enables you to prosper your soul and to steady your emotions by surrounding yourself with those people and things in your world that bring comfort, calm and perspective. Those cushions will be different for everyone, but it’s learning to find your secret and safe place so that you can recharge and refuel that are what I describe as cushions, rather than allowing ourselves to become drained and depleted.

I know when I or those close to me need some cushioning because you get what I call “brittle”. You start reacting to things around you more, become strained and have far less patience than usual. Emotions become erratic, and people get anxious as life can feel like it is smashing you about. This is where placing our “cushions” that protect us from lifes force or shock are so important.

Here are some useful “cushions” I’ve discovered that help me to take a break, give my inner world rest and help me to be strengthened, so that I am living out of the overflow, rather than just scraping by:

  • Go for a walk or do some form of healthy exercise. It will help you de-stress and relieve any tension.
  • Surround yourself with those things that comfort you physically, such as a hot shower or bath, putting on your comfy clothes, eating food that is both healthy and nourishing and makes you instantly feel better about the world.
  • Play music that brings an atmosphere of rest and peace.
  • Soft lighting, candles, and essential oils all help to minister to our senses and can cushion us.
  • Choose to set a sensible time to finish work for the day then watch a movie or your favourite show, read a book, or just sit back and relax.
  • Be around those you love and who remind you about the brighter side of life. Go or make some plans to do something you enjoy.
  • Forgo the negative relationships you may have or those who drain you and choose to spend some time being cushioned by those people in your world who encourage and edify your life.
  • Hug someone or allow yourself to be hugged. Physical contact, whether we like it or not, is an important part of being healthy. A hug or encouraging hand on our shoulder to let us know people care and are there for you is scientifically proven to improve mood, health and our resilience to stressful situations.
  • Spend some time with Jesus, listen to an encouraging message, and pray and give over all your cares and concerns to Him. “Cast all your cares upon Jesus because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)
  • Make some plans to move forward with your dreams. Write them down, pray and then trust God to direct your steps.

Be kind to yourself today and put some cushioning in place to strengthen and protect you from the shocks and strains of everyday life. Then you will be able to move forward strong, encouraged and protected.

Prayer: Lord please help me to put in place those things that will prosper my soul and protect me from being buffeted about by the things around us. Please reveal to me the cushions in my life. In Jesus name Amen

29 May – Don’t Mess With The Mumma Bear

I am known for being very protective of my family and especially my kids, and everyone who gets to know me discovers I am serious when I say not to mess with them. It’s like the saying, “Don’t poke or mess with the Mumma Bear’ and I mean it.

The last few days, I’ve especially been contemplating that if I go to such lengths to protect and fight for my kids and loved ones, how much more will God do the same for us.

If someone or something messes with us, He will go in to defend, protect, provide and override whatever and whoever is necessary to be faithful to His Word to care, protect and provide. You mess with his kids, and he will enact justice. “The LORD gives righteousness and justice to all who are treated unfairly.” (Psalm 103:6).

As I say, “it’s a fearful thing to fall into the hands of a living God.” (Heb 10:31). God’s Word is very clear that we don’t need to be consumed with a desire for vengeance because the Lord says, “vengeance is mine”, and all through the bible, you can see where God intervened to fulfil His Word to His people, even to the point of overriding the natural laws of nature to do so.

He made an axe head that a man had borrowed from a friend to float so that the user wouldn’t go into debt. Caused waters to part to provide a way through to the other side, raised people from the dead, closed lions mouths and rescued men from the fire. He silenced storms, confused enemy armies so that they attacked one another, reversed time where more hours in the day were needed, turned water into wine, multiplied food, and overcame sin and death so we could live free.

“Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD.” (Romans 12:9)Do not say, “I will repay evil”; wait for the Lord, and he will deliver you.” (Proverbs 20:22)

Whenever you face a situation where you need God to intervene and show himself strong on your behalf, trust Him that He will do just that. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8) It may look different from how you envisaged He would answer, and the timing is usually not what you expect. But He is faithful, and you can count on Him to act on your behalf, to protect, provide and bring justice as He works all things together for your good.

Today, put everything in his hands, declare His promises as you act to do what His Word says, and then trust God to do the rest.

“For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.” (2 Chronicles 16:19)

“The Lord is faithful, who will establish you and guard you from the evil one.” (2 Thessalonians 3:3)

God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfil it?” (Numbers 23:19)

Prayer: Lord, thank you for your faithfulness and that you show yourself strong on behalf of your people. I ask that you meet every need in my life today and work all things together for my good. In Jesus name Amen

27 May – Solution Focused

There are days, especially if you are inclined to stew or worry over things, when you can become more problem than solution-focused.

However, to get ourselves above our circumstances, we have to change our focus from looking at the problem to looking for the solution. It helps to have a heavenly view and perspective of our lives and situation because then we are far more inclined to think God’s thoughts about things, and in doing so become more solution-focused – and it’s being solution-focused that is going bring our breakthrough.

Whatever we are facing, God says He will walk with us through every challenge. We may not understand or even see how it’s possible to get to the other side, but He does, even if that means moving things supernaturally to get to us what He has promised in His Word.

The important thing in moving from a problem to a solution focus mentality is that “we cannot afford to entertain thoughts about ourselves that God doesn’t think about us. The moment we entertain, dwell or feed on those things contrary to His word over us, we believe a lie and war against the very purposes of God in our life.

The mind that is contrary to God sets itself up for failure.” (Bill Johnson)

Today I encourage you to look to the ultimate problem solver, God Himself. Even if He has to make water gush from a rock to quench your thirst, part the oceans, send birds to feed you, supernaturally supply money to provide for you, open blind eyes, heal broken hearts and bodies, soften hardened hearts, silence your enemies, or even resurrect to life those things that are dead, if God needs to do that to fulfil His Word to you He will. (See Exodus 17:6; Exodus 14:21; 1 Kings 17:216; Matthew 17:27; Mark 8:22-25; Matthew chap 8; John 11:38-44; Acts 9:1-19)

Look to Him and trust Him to care for you. Cast your cares upon Him and choose to place your problem in His capable hands. Then listen and ask Him to reveal His strategy and plan to enable you to keep walking through to the solution because He is faithful, and He will do what He has promised.

“Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” (Proverbs 16:3)

“Trust in the Lord completely, and do not rely on your own opinions.
All your heart relies on him to guide you, and he will lead you in every decision you make. Become intimate with him in whatever you do, and he will lead you wherever you go. Don’t think for a moment that you know it all.” 
(Proverbs 3:5-6)

Prayer: Lord, please help me be solution-focused and look to you for direction and guidance today. I choose to lean on you and your promises to me rather than allowing myself to get into fear and worry. I trust in you today, for you are faithful. In Jesus name Amen.

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