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12 Jan – The Power Of Kindness

To be kind takes courage – the courage to step out of our comfort zone to help another person and to choose to be the best version of ourselves. Courage to be kind even if that means risking loss or rejection in offering our kindness.

I’ve discovered that it’s in receiving God’s kindness and love that enables me to reach out with that same kindness to others. 

Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads to repentance” (Romans 2:4)

Many people can go through the day, never feeling the effects of kindness and hearing an encouraging, positive word or smile. These people are often the ones we retreat from and avoid because they seem to be grumpy or demanding all the time. But kindness has the power to change that, and simple acts of kindness can soften even the most hardened heart and work to heal a broken one.

The bible says “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)

Medical studies have found that there are considerable benefits to us being kind and that it is powerful to effect change and healing in people’s lives. Not only does kindness make us and others feel good, but studies revealed the psychological benefits in our brains’ circuitry. Being kind increases happiness, life satisfaction, and self-esteem and works for young and old, regardless of race, religion or social status.

Other research revealed that kindness is more attractive to people than good looks. So perhaps if you are looking for a date, partner, friend or even spouse, think about practicing kindness.

Even a small gesture of kindness sends a message that people matters. It can help lift a bad mood, brighten someone’s day and open hearts up to the goodness of God.

Today make the time to show kindness to those around you. It’s good for your health, your brain, how you are feeling and when expressed will make someone’s day. You may even meet your soul mate or next best friend.

Prayer: Lord, thank you for your great kindness towards me. Please help me share that kindness with others today and for opportunities to make someone else’s day. In Jesus name Amen.

11 Jan – Recovering From Loss

I was watching something from a few years ago that reminded me of some of the loss we’ve had over the past few years and I asked the Lord how you ever really recover from loss. He answered, “What did the disciples do when Jesus was suddenly crucified?”

If anyone has ever suffered loss, confused, hurt and fear, it was the early followers of Jesus. They had given up everything to follow Jesus and for three years had been his constant companions until He was suddenly arrested, beaten and cruelly crucified as a criminal.

How did they recover from the horrific loss, trauma and confusion around the events of Jesus death?

The answer is, they went back to what they knew and the things they knew to be true. They spent time meeting and talking together and remembering everything Jesus had taught and shared with them.

The disciples also went back fishing together – it’s one of the things many of them were skilled at. Its here, after a night of fishing that Jesus found them. He prepared breakfast on the beach, and once again performed a fishing miracle in telling them to cast their nets on the other side till their boats overflowed with fish. These were all a reminder of all that Jesus had taught and previously done for them.

Jesus then takes the time to encourage and comfort his followers over a meal together, especially taking time to reassure Peter of his love and forgiveness for his betrayal. He then reinstated Peter as a leader and gave him fresh vision and purpose for the future. (John 21: 1- 25)

Loss of any kind can be scary, confusing and leave us wondering where on earth Jesus is?  But what we can do after the initial shock of loss is:

  1. Focus and lean on what you know is true. Take time to pray, spend time with Jesus, read the Bible, listen to and be around encouraging people, exercise, rest and remind yourself what you know of God’s character and goodness.  
  2. Go back to the last things you were sure of. Those things that you know are positive, helpful and give you a, “I know how to do this” feeling.

Jesus will find you in that safe place, just as he found the disciples meeting together in a house and then again as they were out fishing. It is in these familiar healthy places that Jesus encourages, comforts and gives us fresh vision.  (John 20:19-21:1)

Regardless of how overwhelmed you may feel as a result of loss, Jesus will come. He doesn’t leave us brokenhearted and is faithful to His promises.

Today go back to what you know of God and the things which prosper your soul. Jesus will find you there, and in His presence, you will receive healing and fresh vision as He sets your feet once more on solid ground.

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3)

But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength; they will fly up on wings like eagles; they will run and not be tired; they will walk and not be weary.” (Isaiah 40:31)

Prayer: Lord, thank you that you don’t leave me broken hearted or a mess but will meet me at my point of need. Please help me trust who you are and your promises today and to keep doing the things I know to do until healing and fresh vision comes. In Jesus name Amen.

10 Jan – Change The World

I believe we can change the world and that God expects the world to be better because we are in it. For us, to enact change and remove those things which are not right or good.

Many have gone before us who have done precisely that, “they have changed the world”. Martin Luther King, William Wilberforce, Mother Teresa, Charles Finney, Smiths Wigglesworth, Maria Wordsworth Etta, Jonathan Edwards, Dwight Moody, Billy Graham, Gladys Aylward, Jackie Pullinger, Reinhard Bonnke… The list goes on and on.

There are those who have sacrificed, who have prayed, who have believed for better things. Those who found and embraced their purpose and call, being brave and wildly audacious enough to step out and do something!

God speaks. He’s speaking in visions, in dreams, in thoughts and words planted in our hearts and minds and He wants us to pick up on these things, and His plan for each one of us and to act! He wants Heaven and all it’s goodness to impact the earth. That’s what He’s always wanted, for “His will be done on earth as it is in Heaven”. (Matthew 6:9)

There is a resounding call in each of us to do extraordinary exploits, and if we dare to listen, God reveals to us what they are. Without even knowing, we often glimpse these things and who we could be, but we need to take the time to push in and receive clarity to follow-through.

Why? Because the world is full of people who have good intentions, but that’s all they are – intentions.

What the world needs is for us to act on those good intentions. To speak up and put our hands, feet, and hearts to the call and task within each of us.

There is a generation of little ones, of young people who need to be released and set free to be all they were created to be.

Some don’t know that they are loved, and desperately need hope for their future.

There are people all around us, everywhere you look, who need restoration and a helping hand. Who need to dream again and look forward to tomorrow!

We can all encourage people around us to try, to think and dream bigger, to believe for better things. We can help and teach people how to get back up when they fall and are discouraged; how not to let go of their purpose in the face of defeat. We need to stand beside each other and cheer one another on!

You have a purpose and in your way can “Change The World,” even if it’s impacting one person at a time.

Begin today by seeking God and his way of doing things. Allow him to lead and guide you to become the best version of yourself and then go and bless someone’s life today.

Pray like this: Our Father, dwelling in the heavenly realms may the glory of your name be the centre on which our lives turn. Manifest your kingdom realm, and cause your every purpose to be fulfilled on earth just as it is fulfilled in heaven.  We acknowledge you as our Provider of all we need each day.? (Matthew  6:9-11 TPT)

“So above all, constantly chase after the realm of God’s kingdom and the righteousness that proceeds from him. Then all these less important things will be given to you abundantly. Refuse to worry about tomorrow, but deal with each challenge that comes your way, one day at a time. Tomorrow will take care of itself.” (Matthew 6;33-34 TPT)

9 Jan – You Are Unique

You have been made wonderfully unique and there’s nobody else quite like you. In a world that seeks to categorise and label everyone, it’s refreshing to know that God loves this uniqueness. He is the one who shaped and wired you towards particular interests, talents, passions and abilities.

I love what the bible says about how God has made us:

“You formed my innermost being, shaping my delicate inside
 and my intricate outside, and wove them all together in my mother’s womb.

 I thank you, God, for making me so mysteriously complex!
 Everything you do is marvellously breathtaking.
 It simply amazes me to think about it! How thoroughly you know me, Lord!

You even formed every bone in my body when you created me in the secret place, carefully, skillfully shaping me from nothing to something.
You saw who you created me to be before I became me!
Before I’d ever seen the light of day, the number of days you planned for me
were already recorded in your book. Every single moment you are thinking of me(Psalm 139:13-18)

Our shape, both internally and externally, is explicitly created for God’s plan and purpose for our lives. He has made us to experience and enjoy life in our unique way and wants us to know who we are in Him and then experience the life He planned for us.

When we “get happy” with who we are, and also seek to stretch and grow into the best we can be, it not only feels good, but it makes God smile. He is a loving Father and just as parents delight to see their children discovering who they are and using and enjoying their gifts and abilities; God does too.

Today quit worrying and comparing yourself to someone else and take time to discover and explore all that God has made you be.  He sees and knows all about you and has the best and most amazing plan for your life if you’d only choose to follow His guidance, acceptance and love.

“Lord, you know everything there is to know about me. You perceive every movement of my heart and soul, and you understand my every thought before it even enters my mind.
You are so intimately aware of me, Lord. You read my heart like an open book
and you know all the words I’m about to speak before I even start a sentence!
You know every step I will take before my journey even begins. You’ve gone into my future to prepare the way, and in kindness you follow behind me to spare me from the harm of my past. With your hand of love upon my life, you impart a blessing to me.” (Psalm 139:1-5 The Passion Translation)

Prayer: Lord, thank you that you know me, and have made me unique and special. Help me to embrace all that you have made me be and to enjoy the journey. In Jesus Name Amen.

8 Jan – There’s No Comparison To You

Our youngest son was upset today because he couldn’t keep up with everyone else while doing an exercise routine, which caused him to feel small and insecure. Unfortunately, he fell into the trap of comparing himself to others instead of realising that the only person he needed to compete with was the person he was yesterday.

The temptation to compare ourselves to others is a constant battle. It can cause us to lose focus and to let go of our goals. Our comparisons either highlight our dominance, which can quickly lead to us becoming prideful and arrogant, or we start to feel inferior and insecure, believing we are less than others.  

When we compare ourselves, we waste precious energy, focusing on other people’s’ lives rather than our own.

Instead of being thankful for all the blessings in our life, the practice of comparing often causes us to think that God’s blessings are in short supply and that we are losing at life while others are winning.

But God says you are His masterpiece created with a particular purpose, and with a unique plan for your life. (Ephesians 2:10).

One of our daughters specialises in exercise and fortunately today her little brother was able to make a quick phone call to her. She encouraged him that he was doing great, and for him to concentrate on his goals and achievements rather than comparing himself to others. His only comparison need be against who he was yesterday. As a result, he went back and finished his workout and finished the day with a win – His win, against himself and no one else.  

Today remember that you are unique and that God made you the way you are. Psalm 139:14 tells us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” 

When you allow Him to, God will transform you into the best version of yourself and help and encourage you to keep growing.

If tempted to start comparing yourself, thank God for making you the way you are, concentrate on what you want to achieve and focus on your strengths rather than any weaknesses.

Trust God today to finish the work that He’s started, and for him to continue to lead you into the extraordinary life He has planned.  

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. (Jeremiah 29:11)

“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them”. (Ephesians 2:10)

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you”. (Matthew 6:33)

Prayer; Lord forgive me where I have fallen into the comparison trap. Help me to count my blessings and be thankful for my life. Help me run my own race and not to miss any of the life you have planned for me. In Jesus Name. Amen.

7 Jan – Make The Most Of Your Day

Our youngest daughter informed me today that I am eighteen thousand, one hundred and forty-nine days old today and have lived 26 million, one hundred and thirty-four thousand, five hundred and sixty minutes.

Thinking about how long it’s been since I was born makes me wonder what we all do with our time, especially when statistics report that 1.4 billion adults spend six hours and forty four minutes on social media every week. Plus the average person will watch 3,639 movies and 31,507 episodes of television, amounting to a staggering 78,705 hours of television in their lifetime.

If we keep on doing the same things, we will keep getting the same results, yet how many of us go from one week to the next continually doing, thinking and talking the same old things. We are creatures of habit and routine and the things we did yesterday have brought us to the life we have today, but how much more life could we all be living?

The twenty six million minutes I have lived caused me to think about what I have achieved, the lives I have impacted, and the people and places I have been blessed by. It caused me to consider what we can all do differently so that we can enjoy more those things that matter, and what we can change to create a better tomorrow.

To help give yourself a kick start to making the most of all the precious hours and minutes in your day:

Think and pray about what kind of life God has put in your heart that you want to see, achieve and experience. Jesus said He came to give us life and life abundant. What does that look like for you? (John 10:10)

Find out what God thinks and what His Word says about the desires and dreams in your heart. Allow Him to speak into your life so that He can help you succeed.  

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” (Proverbs 16:3)

List ten things that you would like to explore, attempt, or master and make a plan to go and do them.

Write these ideas down and put them somewhere visible so you can remain focused and pray over them. (Making a vision board is a great way to do this)  

Form a strategy and then take a step to stretch and challenge yourself so that tomorrow’s results are different from today’s.

Stop living as if your life is a rehearsal and go and live it. Because the choices you make today will be who you are tomorrow.

The plans of the diligent lead to life.” (Proverbs 21:5)

“So teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90:12)

Prayer: Lord, please help me the most of this wild and precious life you have given me. Would you guide me in making a plan so I can begin today. In Jesus name Amen.

6 Jan – How To Be Your Best Self Everyday

I’ve installed a program called Grammarly on my computer, which helps me communicate with impact and get my message across. Grammarly aims to help me present my best self every time I write and corrects any errors I make.

As I type Grammarly checks what I am writing, and messages pop up on the side of my screen letting me know I have a sentence that is too long, unclear or passive speech. When I get it right, the program says things like, “no issues found,” everything looks good” and “give yourself a pat on the back.’ However, when I struggle to make myself clear or hesitant in my speech, Grammarly asks me to look at the sentence again and to rephrase what I am saying because my writing is unclear or difficult to understand. The program then gives me some ideas to better phrase what I want to share and applauds me with a nice comment when I correct it.

Grammarly reminds me of how Jesus works in us. When you follow Him and ask Him to be part of your life, He helps you to be your best self every day, walking alongside you, guiding and directing your steps.

Some days I have a great day, and Grammarly hardly needs to correct and guide my writing. Yet other days I am unclear, messy and require a lot of assistance, which Grammarly is happy to give. Jesus works the same way, as some days we are patient, kind, self-controlled, and doing fantastic, and then other days we don’t like ourselves or our behaviour very much at all.

Line by line, precept by precept and step by step, Jesus encourages and empowers us to be our best self, lets us know where we could improve something and when we get stuck or off course shows us a better way to do things. He doesn’t yell or shout, but is the one cheering us on, letting us know we are “doing a great job, and telling us, “well done, that’s quite an improvement”.

God knows the plan and purpose of heaven over your life, and his heart is never to condemn or chastise you. If He disciplines and corrects you, it is as a loving Father who disciplines His child so that you won’t trip up or miss out on all He has planned for you. He knows the perfect, whole and healed version of you and promises that as you walk with Him, He will “perfect all that concerns you”, and complete the good work that He began in you.” (Psalm 138:8; Philippians 1:6)

Today I encourage you to keep writing your story, running your race and chasing your dreams. But also know that you don’t have to make any of this journey alone. You have a personal guide, counsellor, burden bearer, mentor and one who believes in you far more than you believe in yourself. Invite and trust Him to be there for you, and to light the path ahead for your feet. He’ll make sure you run your race well, fulfill your destiny and win the prize.

“Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life. (John 8:12 ESV)

Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” (Isaiah 30:21)

But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. (John 14: 26)

“But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.” (John 16:13)

Prayer: Lord, help me listen to your voice and the guidance in your Word, to run my race well. Thank you for your encouragement, grace and kindness to me and that I can do all things before me because you give me strength today. In Jesus name Amen.  

5 Jan – Engaging With Your Perfect Self

If you could see the perfect version of yourself, what would you see? Because that ideal version of you is what and who God sees when He looks at you; He doesn’t see your flaws, imperfections, weaknesses or mess when He looks at you. He sees the heavenly version of you and then works to cause that person to be manifest on earth.

The key to living this out is to engage more often with our perfect self than with our frailties, doubts, low self-image and brokenness. The bible says that when we ask Jesus to be part of our lives, we become an entirely new creation. It’s who we are in Christ, and it’s the complete, restored, free version of us.  As we spend time with Jesus and seeking after His way of doing life that amazing version of who we are, is revealed and manifested here on earth. We become transformed the more we engage with who Jesus says we are now, for “everything we could ever need for life and godliness has already been deposited in us by his divine power.” (1 Peter 1:3 TPT)

Engage with your perfect self today by:

Laying aside any thoughts or beliefs that contradict what God says.  (2 Cor 10:4-5)

  • Set your mind on heaven and seek after God and what He wants to do in and through you today. (Matthew 6:33; Colossians 3:1)
  • Believe who Jesus says you are and ask him to show you what you look like. Then take steps every day to walk out who and what He says about you. You are healed, whole, forgiven, free, and complete in Him, with all you need for life and godliness deposited within you. (Colossians 2:10)

Don’t focus upon the broken, weak, sick or limited version of you. Look to Jesus instead and see who you are in Him and what He says about your life and future. Become familiar with the perfected, whole, amazing version of yourself, because you’re fantastic!

“And our own completeness is now found in him. We are completely filled with God as Christ’s fullness overflows within us. He is the Head of every kingdom and authority in the universe” (Colossians 2:10 TPT)

Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NLT)

“We do not use those things to fight with that the world uses. We use the things God gives to fight with, and they have power. Those things God gives to fight with destroy the strong-places of the devil. We break down every thought and proud thing that puts itself up against the wisdom of God. We take hold of every thought and make it obey Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:4-5 NLT)

Prayer: Lord, thank you that I am a new creation and perfected and complete in you. Please help me to engage with the perfected, healed and whole version of myself as I draw closer to you today. In Jesus name Amen.

4 Jan – Finding The Beauty In Everyday

I have a “One Word” for the year which I focus on and pursue. This year’s word is beautiful, and I’m determined to search for and find beauty every day regardless of the news, drama, adverse reports or my concerns and worries.

The definition for beautiful is something that possesses qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear and think. It is delighting the senses and is that which is wonderful and excellent.

Beauty prospers our souls, ministers to our hearts and reminds us God is good. I believe that God purposely created so many beautiful places, people, and things simply for us to enjoy, and He has a key for us cultivating more beauty in our life everyday. He says, “whoever wants to embrace real life and find beauty each day is to stop speaking evil, hurtful words and lying. Turn from what is wrong and cultivate what is good and eagerly pursue peace in every relationship, making it your prize.” (1 Peter 3:10-12)

When you follow God’s advice and value beauty it changes your focus; you tend to not get caught up so much in the world’s negative, ugly thinking or behaviour. Your perspective, language and even what you create and express alters as you share what you behold and peace flows into your relationships.

Today if you want to experience more joy, beauty and all that is profitable and good then, “Keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies. Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and then maintain it. Then the eyes of the Lord will watch over you, and his ears will be open to your prayers”. (3 Peter 3:10 NLT)  

So keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honourable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on every glorious work of God, praising him always. Follow the example of all that we have imparted to you, and the God of peace will be with you in all things. (Philippians 4:6-9 TPT)

Prayer: Lord even though there are negative and ugly aspects to the world we live in, I ask that you help me see the beauty in every day. Thank you for this day and all that you have made for me to enjoy.  In Jesus name Amen.  

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